Marital Issues

Q: I want to remarry. I am divorced and have 1 daughter and 1 son. Someone he has proposed for me and he accepts my children with all aspects so will this marriage be good for us?

Q: I am a 21 years old boy and I am graduating this year in June with an engineering degree. My family is well settled Alhumdulilah and we don't have any such issues financially. I like a girl and want to marry her so to avoid any gunnah and keep things Islmaic we approached our parents for our marriage. Her parents agreed readily as they know me and like me but my parents made an objection. The girl is of good character the only objection they made is that in our Culture we get married after 25 years of age and you are four years younger and don't earn yet. I said okay I will wait a year and get a job and start earning and get married but they making and issue because they think I am not 25 years old and because they want it to be done in their family. So what should I do now as I think I will make a good couple with her. I also did istekhara and got a positive dream for which I consulted a mufti too. Can you please guide me how to deal with my parents issues?

Q: My husband is at Sudia Arbia. It has been two year of our marriage, he comes for a total of 6 months and in this duration he does not have interest in sex, and he don't want to keep me with him. I can't control my emotions. What should I do that Allah will not punish me. I don't want to done zina by hand, eyes or the actual zina. Please help and guide me. My husband doesn't talk to me on the phone when he is in Sudia.

Q: I would like to find out something regarding talaaq. My husband and I have been recently divorced due to many issues we have been having along the years. About 6 years actually. Two years ago I met someone and we fell in love, this man loves me and now wants to marry me. I love him too and want to be with him as well. He says when my iddat is over we will decide etc. I want to know if we can still communicate and keep in touch or am I forbidden to him for the duration of my iddat. We are both big business people and are well known in the community so we sometimes need to meet and talk etc. We will not hold or touch etc but sometimes need to meet to discuss the future. Kindly advise. Also he is currently married, he has big kids and does not want to lose them. I have asked him to let me go but this is not an option for him. His wife knows about us and threatens to take the kids away. His daughter will be married soon and will no longer be under the roof. The son is big and will definitely stay with his father as he does not get on with his mum. The smaller kid may be a problem. I understand that he does not need her permission to marry me and she cannot ask for a divorce for this reason. He says he wants to talk to her about a second wife. How does one approach this situation and soften the blow as most modern woman do not want to share their men. My head is in such a mess right now and cannot think straight, please make me maaf, will you kindly answer each part of my confused email. I really appreciate it.

Q: Please help me. I am in very serious trouble. I started to like a girl from the last 3 years. She used to live in Lahore. My parents did give me permission to choose my own spouse and they were very happy.  My mother agreed but my father and brothers were like we are not in this matter it's your own choice. Time passed, we got engaged last year everything was going smoothly. That girl supported me in every possible way. Two weeks back she visited my place for the first time with her mom and my dad and brother rejected her in first look and started to talk very negative about her. They went judgemental about her every negative thing they could find in her they lashed out. The girl is an orphan not to forget and my mom made a commitment to her mom that the wedding will be this year 2015. My mom also rejected her because of their personal reasons. She wanted a beautiful girl for me with a strong family background and stuff. Now no one is on my side. My dad is getting very angry and forcing me to call off this engagement and finish this relationship with her. Tell me what are my rights now? I'm planning to run away because they clearly won't accept her at any cost. Please guide me what to do?

Q: I am a married woman and have three children. I am staying in India whereas my husband is working abroad. I am married since the last ten years. In theses ten years I have seen that my husband is very short tempered. He often gets fits of anger. He is a very loving husband but when he gets upset on anything whether it is my fault or not he shouts at me, insults me, uses bad words for me and my family and even beats me in front of my children, his parents, brothers and sister. It seems as if he has become mad. Many a times it happens that he doesn't even talk to me for months. As a wife I never felt close to him. He is a very religious person but has no control over his anger. I feel very lonely and my life has become a hell. Please suggest me some dua or wazifa for my husband's short tempered nature and to gain his love and respect.

Q: I have found some YouTube websites for ruqya recitation on marriage issues and problems. Please can you advise me the best one to stablize the marital life with love, peace, harmony as much as possible and also that what time of the day and how many times in a day or week should we listen to the recitation of it.

Q: If a woman doesn't love her husband and her husband doesn't care for her and there is no reason to hold on to the relationship (no children) and the husband is lazy and there is no compatibility and she is not happy with her husband, what should she do? Is she forced to be with him in Islam?

Q: I need some guidance. Every time I complain to my husband about his family's injust behaviour, he doesn't accept even though he knows that they are wrong. My husband doesn't say anything, not even one single thing that why do they do like this? If they hurt me, disrespect me, to whom should I complain? All the time my husband gives reasons of his own workload and then in the end he complains to my family that I'm against his family and I'm disturbing him. My family can't interfere so they consider me wrong. If I directly complain to my father-in-law, he doesn't accept that they can be wrong. f I avoid going to them, my husband doesn't accept. As a human being, if I find all doors closed for me, what can I do then? Doesn't that damage me?

Q: My wife had sex with one of her contacts. She slept with him on the first time they decided to meet at his place and she only chatted with him for a month. They slept twice together on different days. She always promised me she will never have sex with another man even after the time she had sex with him for the first time. She use to tell me it's her cousin and convinced me with tears in her eyes that how can I suspect her with her cousin, so I believed her. When I thought I don't like this chats that she and her so called cousin had, I deleted his contact then she hit me and threw tantrims telling me it's just her cousin. But I found out it wasn't and they had sex twice. So my question is, it wise to let her go work after all the lies and deceit and betrayal? Must I trust her promises and word this time? I mean if she found it easy to sleep with a stranger what about someone at work or someone she travels with. Please advise me.