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Q: My mom had an affair...please help...I belong to a pretty religious family...We family members love eachother alot...we have heart to heart connection...but we are facing money problems from alot of time as my father dont undrstand about my mother's and his daughters daily needs. My mom starting borrowing money from people.. I agree my father is irresponsible towards our financial needs but he is a very good father and husband.. He loves my mom alot and he doesn't have any bad habbits...but he doesn't give her enough of money and he mistreated her verbally..he doesn't give her enough money because we have alot of financial problems .. my mom and dad have suffered alot...my mom strived hard to be a good wife but the situation became worst when we had no money and she had to borrow money from a man...whom she loved before marriage...as time passed she started texting and meeting him and they fell in love again...she now loves him alott...The relationship might be sexual too...but my mom is very religious and cries alot during namaz and loves my father too..but i just cant accept that my mom is having this kind of relationship with someone..It makes me cry everytime..It feels so bad to see her doing all this harram stuff...my heart breaks...I am not able to tolerate it anymore...my father trust's her alot...but she doesn't find enough of love in him...So she started falling for that man again...I don't know how to face all this anymore..if I ask her, all she says is that he is her friend...and the thing is I cant even force her or tell her about it..because she loves that man alot and she might even try to harm herself if something happens as she has suffered alot about this money problem, debts and all....What should I do?

Q: I was 18 when I met my now husband...and I found out after I fell in love with him that he has a illigitimate child..he had no contact with her since birth and did not want to as the mother didn't want him to have any rifts over the child as she was to marry a man she cheated with on my husband in the past... For 16 years there was no contact and I married my husband on the grounds that this will never be a problem 1 day as I was never given a option to accept this with him or not... Furthermore for years he did not want this himself..

A few months ago after 16 years the child contacted het father and out of no where he wanted to have a relationship with her but his ex and child is not muslim and I could not bring myself to accept this...

Firstly the child isn't islam..2ndly I feel betrayed at the fact that I have to change my life for others mistakes of 16 years..my pious parents accepted this marriage on grounds that this would never come back like this...

I do feel bad as I told my husband...i cannot accept his estranged ex and child which isn't muslim in my life after so many years when now I want to start my own family and if he wants his child I have no choice but to divorce him as I cannot accept and fix a 16 year lost relationship of him and his daughter.. Am I wrong to not accept this?because I feel like I've been wronged by him and his false promise at the time of marriage..im scared Allah will punish me for stopping him and the child from having a relationship...

Please help

Q: Will I be cursed or saved from some difficulties in life if I can't forgive my mother? She already passed away several years ago but still I can't forget those times when she was alive that she never made me feel that she loved me, what I felt and feel right now is still HATRED from her, I'm even kind of happy when she passed away because she never made me happy, she always scolded me and more, I have 5 siblings and what she treat others is not the same on how she treated me. It's unfair for me and that's one of the reasons why I felt hatred for her. What I always heard about Islamic lectures is forgive your parents, love your parents especially your mother.

Q: I am an unmarried girls of 32 yrs age. I am not getting any good match.  One person wants to get married to me as his 2nd wife. My mother is denying to do so. What shall I do.

Q: I have always known that the fragrance of Jannah will be haraam for a woman that does not wear hijab and that it is compulsory on woman to wear it in Islam. However, I never really let that soak in until very recently when I started wearing the hijab. Nobody has ever ostricized me for it and I was gaining confidence and starting to be comfortable about going out with it. I was starting to tell myself that I look better with hijab than without it even though I didn't really believe that. The other day my mother just ruined it all. She kept making little hints but the other day she couldn't handle it any more and told me that I'm becoming too holy and that I don't have to act like an old lady and wear scarf all the time. She said that it's more difficult for women who wear hijab to get married because boys like modern girls. When I began crying she tried to cover up what she initially said by telling me that she only meant I should take it off when sitting privately with friends in a coffee shop etc which made zero sense because obviously there would be male waiters around. She said that she just meant I would feel more comforable and fit in better without my scarf on. I never felt very uncomfortable or odd with it but after she said that I do. She apologized and my father explained to her how we're meant to stick to Allah's commands no matter what etc. The matter was closed and everybody moved past it but I can't get over it. I still wear scarf but now I feel like I look like an old lady in it. I tie it properly and try my best to dress nicely and look neat but she still makes me feel like I look like an old lady and it has broken my confidence like she often does. I am still very hurt by this and want to gain my confidence back but I don't know what to do. I have no idea how to feel about this. What do I do to console myself and is there a dua I can read to be more confident and not care about opinions?

Q: If a woman brings her ill mother to her home as there is no one to look after her, but her husband is not pleased with that and mentally tortures her and gives her a very tough time. That woman gets angry on her mother and beats her. But later she realised and said sorry and felt very guilty. Is there any kuffara for that and if she really is guilty will Allah Ta'ala forgive her as she always asks forgiveness for her act and she is guilty by heart.