Asian custom of bride's sisters taking money from the groom on their wedding day

Q: I have a question regarding a tradition called "dood pilai" in Asian households.

During weddings, there is a tradition in which the brides sisters take money from the groom and in return give him a glass of milk. It's usually pre planned with the groom so he comes prepared. This event involves free mixing during the wedding and also pardah is not observed properly.

My question is, is the money which the bride's sisters took from the groom haram in these circumstances? Is it haram to use or keep it as a gift?

Does not observing modesty during this event make the money haram to keep or spend? If the groom earned it through halal means but it was transferred to me through free mixing, does it make the money haram to spend?

Selling livestock without taking possession of the livestock

Q: I've been doing livestock for the past year, I wholesale and retail livestock throughout the year and I try to do everything in the best of my ability and in the halaal way.

Yesterday I came across someone who told me the way I'm running my business is haraam.

I'm From Durban and I get livestock from Northern Cape, Free State and Eastern Cape. So when I wholesale throughout the year as customers want animals, I order from the different farmers and get it delivered directly to the customer. The farmer will send me a video, I will send the video to my customer and if he is happy then I will confirm the order with the farmer and get it delivered to the customer.

Qurbani time the farmers know that I take alot more animals so they call me or video call me and tell me they have this amount of animals for me and keep it aside. Basically they book it for me and as I get customers I call them and tell them to send this amount of animals from my lot to the customers location. I haven't personally seen the animals. The farmer does send me videos and video calls me and I don't have time to go and see them.

Is it permissible the way I trade? If not, then all the money I earned and consumed is haraam and how do I go about fixing this issue? Please advise me.

Does talaaq automatically take place if the spouses did not consummate the marriage within 4 months?

Q: One of my friends married 6 month ago. But she and her husband still not had intercourse between them. She doesn't know anything about it. Her husband also not trying to do anything. What can we do for her? How to take his feelings out? I heard if a husband and wife don't have intercourse upto 4 months, automatically it will be talaq. Is it true?