Visiting the graveyard

Q: Is it permissible for women to visit the qabrastan?

Q: When I visit the qabrastaan, I sit near the grave of my relative and recite a Surah from the Qur'an and I make esale sawab of that surah to them and make dua for them. I want to know whether this is allowed. Is there anything wrong that I am doing?

Q: Is smoking allowed in the graveyard?

Q: Is it permissible for women to park outside the qabarastaan and make dua?

Q: I need to know. Can a woman go to the graveyard for ziyaarat? Did Hazrat Aaisha (Radiyallahu Anha) go to the graveyard for ziyarat of her brother. First Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) said don't go and the he said you can go to Aaisha (Radiyallahu Anha). Can you please explain me about women and children going to the graveyard.

Q: I would like to visit a family member's grave. Please tell me what I should recite in the graveyard. 

Q:

1. Can I recite darud sharif while walking through a non-muslim cemetery?

2. Can muslim sister allowed to visit there parents grave once a week, every week?

3. Are we allowed to grow small plants on our parents grave?

4. Are we allowed to put fresh flowers on our parents grave?

5. Are we allowed to clean and tidy someone grave next to our parents grave?

6. Are we allowed to play any surat on our phone at the grave of our parents?

7. Are we allowed to put extra soil on top of the grave, because original has sank down?

8. My parents grave soil is flat, but I see some grave soil is shape like dome are we allowed to do that?

9. I heard that on Thursday maghrib time the dead person's rooh comes home till Friday. Is this true?

Q: What is the preferred surahs/duas to recite at the graveside of loved ones?

Q: My father passed away. I want to ask that may I go to his grave as I don't have a husband, brother or son. To sum up I have no man in my family so is there any leniency in Islam?

Q:

1. Further to your advice that grave photography is undesirable, please advise in detail.

2. Are women forbidden to visit the graveyard? Under what circumstances are women forbidden to join salatul-Janazah?