women leaving the home

Q: I have started wearing hijab from Baqara Eid of this year. I never thought it would be such a beautiful spiritual experience. I had to do some struggle to start wearing it. Allah's help came in very unexpected way. And he solved all my problems. One thing I can share - Before buying hijab I had one style of hijab in mind. Because of limited cash I got whatever I get with that money. Cloth of my first hijab wasn't good so I returned that to shopkeeper. He brought another hijab for me. And it EXACTLY of same style I had in my mind. When shopkeepers gave me 2nd hijab I didn't realised that it was according to my preference. But when I went to tailor to shorten it's length. He said 2nd hijab is different from 1st hijab so I am charging you more money. Then I realised that I got hijab according to my liking. This made me realise sometimes we forget what we want but Allah don't forgets about our wants. That's was really very amazing. And because of this I become more serious about hijab. My parents don't know about it. And I can't tell them now. So I wear and remove it outside. I wear hijab in a commercial building (in washroom) near my house. It is commercial building so no one particularly notice me because many people come and go. It also crowded (I live in India-Population). So it is also safe for me. On the way to home and till I reach the commercial building I am not in hijab. So is there something wrong about it? I try to not look attractive when I am not in hijab. Like I don't wear earnings, tie my hair up in bun.. I try do my best. Tell me if this wrong. Someone said I am making fun of Islam. And I cant be without hijab once I start wearing it. And please guide me how I can improve. 

Q: I am 19 years old and I got nikaah with a family friend. It was arranged. We both are married islamically but don't plan on getting a "rukhsati" or living together for the next 3-4 years until I finish my university. So nothings really changed for me, I still live with my family and he lives with his but we're married islamically. However, I regret my decision. We don't really click and I am not happy with him. I regret my decision a lot. I feel like I'm too young and I barely know myself. I want to find myself and just be a normal 19 year old girl going to university. I brought up divorce to my parents and they aren't taking it well at all. They are threatening me and abusing me for even thinking about disgracing them like that. I don't know what to do. should I go through with it and be unhappy for the reason of my life? or should I take a stand and risk getting disowned?

Q: I have been through some difficult times during my current employment at my current company. I am 27 years of age and recently divorced. There has been 1 recent incident that an outsider has been harassing my family with false accusations against myself and my manager. It was found to be untrue where my employer has resolved the issues.

With this being said, my family feels that I should leave the company and start fresh. They would like me to leave even if it means I need to earn much less and step down to a lower role. This will affect my career growth. I would like to stay at my company due to the fact that I am doing well and succeeding. I do want to study further and my parents support that. The only concern I have is that they want me to leave my job and have a perception of my manager that is untrue.

My manager is willing to meet with them to try and keep me at my job and show them that I am growing and doing well and will be giving up shares included.

My uncle was called in and he does not agree with my family giving my ultimatums where I need to choose either them or my work. And if I want to stay where I am working then they will call in the rest of my family and let them know of all mistakes/sins I have done since a young child, and ask the entire family not to accept me as I will be thrown out of the house.

I have repented for my sins and I have changed my way of life completely. The person who has harassed my family has made them worry for their daughter and I have told them that everything is untrue. Even my company has told them this. But still I am being forced to leave my job and find work elsewhere even if it affects my career.

My father says that as my wakeel, he can command me to quit my job.

I am turning to you for guidance as a Muslim sister and daughter to my loving parents. I know they mean well but I am unsure of what to do.

Yes, I agree that I have sinned in the past, and I have turned my life around completely. I do not want to leave my current workplace and I am feeling alot of pressure and unfairness. What do I do? How do I convince my parents when they have asked me to leave so that their hearts can feel better.

I have not done anything I was accused of and now my last option is to turn to you for guidance. It saddens me that I have been given ultimatums and that my family will only move on from this unfortunate event, if I give up my job and work elsewhere.

Please guide me on what to do.