Various masaail of Nikaah

Making statements like "I will challenge Allah Ta'ala"

Q: I would like to bring a matter under consideration regarding my husband, as he said that "he will challenge Allah". 

It all happened when I told him that I want to take separation from him and I mentioned that Allah has given me this right, to which he said no I can't and first he said I can bring any Ulamas I want he will send them all flying, they cannot interfere, I will challenge them all, to which I said okay no problem but Allah has given me this right. It's almost 10 years you can't look after me so I will go away myself and then he said "I will challenge Allah ". Listening to this I told him are you gone nuts what are you talking, you can't talk like this. He stood firm on his statement and after that I kept myself quiet, before he says something more bad. 

Just to mention, he was in his full senses, wasn't angry when the topic started. I keep Ulamas away as he has no respect, but please I want to know what to be done with this statement. 

Also his ibadaat is personal, I don't want to bring that in the picture, but want to mention he used to read fajar at the time of sunrise, which always caused a spark between us. He never use to listen. Now he no more reads, even on big nights and on Shabe Barah he told my son Asar time that books are already closed we don't need to make ibadat. I was completely shocked and explained to my son that we have to make ibadah till fajar. So I'm not sure what is his say in religious matters. 

Please I want to know what is the way forward with it.

Sacrificing worldly gain for one's family

Q: I had multiple opportunities to go to other countries but due to my wife's fertility issues I had to sacrifice my career and stay in India itself. 

For the first child, I had to sacrifice many onsite travels as I had to be in India as ease of treatment is good here. When she got pregnant, I got US 2 Years and then Canada 2 years, Germany but I had to decline as we planned for a 2nd baby and then again she needed treatment. We struggled a lot to find good doctors during treatment so I always believed going out would again delay the process and it will take time. 

Kindly help me how could I convince myself, sometimes I get thoughts like why it is happening to me. 

Also I have my mother who is staying with me, even though I have an elder brother but she prefers so stay with me. Kindly guide how do I proceed in this case too.

Husband giving the false impression that he was not married when taking a second wife

Q: My husband didn't clarify about his previous marriage to me in our Nikaah certificate. He mentioned that he was divorced from his previous marriage but after our marriage he disclosed to me that his ex is still his wife and I am his second wife. 

My question is that, is our Nikaah done or because of his statement our Nikaah is not valid? Please clarify.

Husband spending time with his friends till late and neglecting his wife's rights

Q: I would like to know as a wife, whether it is a right of mine that my husband spends some quality time with me after work and Esha or is it just me being demanding and ungrateful which is how my husband sees it. Most nights he is at his friend's houses till 11 or 12 and then comes home when I'm already asleep after I've been waiting for him for hours. 

Anytime I bring up an issue, he tells me the hadeeth about the women being the greatest inhabitants of jahannam due to their ungratefulness and keeps saying it's in my nature as a woman. I need to know whether I am just being that type of woman and I just need to be fine with not seeing my husband and just be content that he sleeps next to me at night when he does come home.