advice

Q: I hope you are doing great. I am a 24 year old boy. I am in this haraam relationship with a girl for more than 5 years now. I have tried many times to end this relationship but every time I end up going back to it. This relationship is effecting me in every bad way. Wasting my time on phone, chatting, sending pictures and what not. Lately I am so immersed in this that I do nothing without wasting time with her. I have no feelings while praying or studying. I only think of her. Please pray for me and suggest me how can I end this Haram relationship?

Q: I am from the UK and currently in school. I am baaligh and unfortunately the school does not facilitate for us any place for Salaah. What should I do? It is compulsory to attend school but what can I do if they don't allow us to pray Salaah and we have lessons during Salaah time. Now in winter, we will definitely miss Asr Salaah. They don't allow you even for 5 Minutes to go pray and come back. Please advise me.

Q: Is it permissible for a momen (believer) woman who has young children to stay in the same house but different room with a husband who is acting hypocritically (Allah knows he wants to irritate his wife by refusing to pray and use of improper words, swearing etc. because he doesn't like his wife or he is really what he shows), or she should divorce, as she doesn't want to be divorced unless living with that kind of husband is Haram. If divorce is not mandatory she is ready to have saber until she is alive because Allah's satisfaction is more impotent then everything else to her.

Q: I suffer from this type of ocd called scrupulosity. This often makes me have obsessive guilt. I fear that I have made the wrong choice on some islamic controversial issues and disagreements among the scholars such as music and other disagreements scholars have disagreements on. For example, for music I follow the opinion that music is permissible as long as if doesn't contain bad words and sexual content or provokes lustful desires. After researching the hadiths and reading different opinions I felt happy and confident with my choice. The waswas came and has made feel doubt. Not just on this issue but others as well. I fear that I have made the wrong choice and that I'll go to hell for it. I became so obsessed about thinking about my decision. Why does shaitan put this doubt in me and cause me anxiety. What if I make the wrong choice and side with the wrong scholars, will I be put to hell and punished by God? How can I feel confident on my choice without feeling doubt and obsessive guilt?

Q: I am from Pakistan and I am working in Dubai since 18 months. I find it always very difficult and disappointing to stay away from parents and brothers and sister. In my country I can get a job but it pays less than the job in Dubai. I have decided to leave and go back and work there on less salary than here and live with parents and brothers and I am also getting married soon in my country so I prefer to stay with all family and work on less salary there instead of staying here in Dubai away from them. My question is that according to Islamic teachings, am I taking the right step? Maybe this question seems little bit stupid but it holds great importance in my life as I want to follow my Deen in every aspect of my life. Please answer my question and help me to put an end to this confusion.

Q: I had been engaged for one year and I just talked to my fiancee on mobile and crossed every limit on mobile. She left me after one year and got married immediately to her bhaabi's brother. I saw her after her marriage, she came before me on my call in front of her family. She said that she told her parents that she did not agree to the engagement but her mother said she is lying and her bhaabi had put black magic on her. I am very much confused and upset and can't forget the talks we had. I just want to know that

1. Did she really love that boy?

2. Maybe she loved that boy and me as well but she left me because of my behaviour or may be she and that boy had something between them.

3. I also want to apologise to her in front of her family as well.

Q: Everything was going smoothly, but since a month I am in a lot of troubles. These troubles are mainly psychological. I am unable to concentrate on my studies. Rather it is like I want to study but I am unable to due to lack of determination, will power, etc. I am lost and I don't know what should I do. I waste a lot of time these days in idiotic activities. I just want to stop this but I am unable to. Please help me in this matter. If there is a dua to overcome such distress please do give me.

Q: I personally dislike visiting restaurants/eating out, because I feel they are places of the dunya and a waste of money. However, my wife enjoys visiting restaurants and wants me to take her out to eat now and again. She agrees that we only go to places which have pardah facilities (screens), no music and reliable halaal food. Should I take my wife out to eat since this is important for her, and be thankful for the fact that she is particular with her parda and avoiding haram? Or should I follow my own feeling that eating out shows love of the dunya and is a waste of time and money, and thus refuse to take her out? If so, what alternatives can I provide her to keep her happy? My wife's background is such that she is not happy just sitting at home.