Court issuing a divorce without the consent of the husband

Q: My wife was divorced from her ex Husband. When she filed the divorce in America, her ex husband left for Pakistan and he never showed up in the court or Islamically gave her divorce or signed any paper. But the court in America awarded her the divorce and then she got married to me. In Islam did her previous divorce happen. Because after 2 years from the court order she got married to me. So I need to know if our nikah was valid?

Premarital relationship

Q: Im in a relationship with someone and we want to marry each other as soon as possible but because of the halat we are not able to marry each other. My parents are against our relationship and his parents are fine with the relationship. I dont know what to do? I want him. I dont know how to make this relationship in to husband and wife? What should I do so that my parents can accept him and our relationship? What dua or wazifa should I do to get him? 

Breaking a vow

Q:

1. A condition for a vow is that it must be verbal and therefore if one cannot remember if he made a vow verbally or in his mind is it binding?

2. If I made a vow that I will give my first months wages from my new job to charity then I spend the money, is my vow broken and will Kaffarah be necessary? Or can I give the value of the first months wages another time in the future?