Q: I bear witness in the court of Allah that everything in this email is the truth not fabricated and not exaggerated.

My husband and i have had a very stormy marriage from the beggining . He suffers from OCD. And atm his refusing to get help for it which is making my life unbearable. Recently he raised his hand very severely on my son .(because of his frustration . My son is 2 ) Wallahi i was about to lay a charge against him the only thing held me back was that my daughter is very attached to her father & that he would taint the reputation of my father in law.

This man smokes in the house . Does not pray salah . NEVER MAKES IT FOR JUMMAH NEVER!!! stays up till the odd hours of the morning watching t.v. swears infront my kids . And the list can go on. Furthermore i am not allowed to tell anyone of his family members that he does not go for jummah. The last time i called his father so we could help him together he gave me a 2nd talaaq and he told my father to take me and f off from his home .

He told me he will use every cent of his to fight me in court and get full custody of the kids .He obviously thinks because his wealthy he can do anything . May Allah open his eyes to reality . He Forgets Allah is above all. And his situation can turn very quickly .

I begged him and time & again to stop swearing read salah .i would say that Allah is watching u stop . Remember the azaab in the qabr . U bringing up your children with rotten habbits .. everything went to deaf ears. Yes i have weaknesses & yes i have my own faults but they are little which he only notices because of his ocd .

I begged him to write me a list and tell me what am i doing wrong . Where can i improve . He gave me a list via the marriage counsellor and i swear By Allah that i have tried to stop doing anything that annoys him . But now im left with a little problem. Now that i stopped doing things he doesnt like . I have to play happy couple infront of his family so nobody suspects anything and nobodys asks questions . All the issues are swept under the carpet .

Its funny how people forget they have daughters to and that one day they going to get married إن شاء الله . Let us act how we would if this would be happening to one of our own daughters . May Allah swt forbid this ever happening to anyone of them as i truly love them as my own family and they are far to kind and caring. He is one rotten egg in the entire family that does not make them All bad. MAY ALLAH SAFEGUARD EACH AND EVERY CHILD.

We did a 6 months separation and the main problem was my daughter . He wanted her all the time and because his mentally unstable i didnt want her to be alone with him.i did however say and again i swear by Allah that this is the truth come whenever u want to spend time with her here(my parents home) . He got his elder brother to phone my father a few times and that really stressed my parents out . He doesnt want family involved . He doesnt want to go to a marriage counsellor and i am 2 months pregnant . I leave for my parents home today .

If mufti could please advise me the way forward . I asked a very senior learned ulema when is the most powerful time to make dua . And his words to me wer sister you are pregnant you are oppressed your duas will reach the heavens surely.

Every single time he oppressed me i forgave him and more than that i sat on the muasallah and asked my rabb to forgive him aswell . Today i pray that Allah brings justice to everyone that lied to me on his behalf and him as well .

Also i just found out my father does not want me to return home . I do not have anywer to go . My parents are well known in the community perhaps they afraid of backlash from community memebers . . Perhaps they see me and 2 children one unborn child as a burden .

Q: My question is about talak. Meri cousin nay ghar walon sy chup k nikah kia in court. Or you can say k court marriage ki. In k nikkah ko 4 sal ho gay han or abi tak ye bat raz hi ha. Ab wo banda meri cousin ko tang krta ha and she doesn't want to be in contact with him and wants separation but wo banda nai man raha ha. Hum khula ka case nai kar saktay q k its a secret. Aik video mai aik mulana ny btya k tum mutalikka ho bolnay sy b talak ho jati ha. Us larki ny apny husband sy ye words lyrics ki surat mai bulway han i mean k usko bola ye song ha tum sing kro. Us larkay ny isko 3 bar asay sing kr k bola. Ab ap mj ye btahein k is trhan talak ho jati ha k nai?

Q: It is said that women are fitna for men. Does it mean even very pious lady will still be fitna for men?

Q: I want to ask a question about qarz. Once when I was younger like 10 years old, I asked my friend for some money and he gave it but today I heard if you don't pay back the money, you are in trouble with Allah Ta'ala and are going to get punished after death but I am pretty sure that friend said he doesn't need the money and I don't have to repay him because he's my friend so do I still have to pay him his money back? It was like 1 pound only.

Q: Lately I was informed that on account of the price of the Qurbaani animals increasing in certain places, some scholars have suggested that the Nisaab should change from silver to gold to make it easy for the people so that they will not have to do the Qurbaani. Will it be permissible for one to accept this opinion and pay Zakaat and do Qurbaani only if one possesses wealth that equals the gold Nisaab? The silver Nisaab is 612,36g of silver, which, at present, is approximately R4 764 and the gold Nisaab is 87,48g of gold which, at present, is approximately R50 000. According to this, a lot of people who possess wealth less than R50 000, but more than R4 764 will not have to do Qurbaani and nor will they have to discharge Zakaat.

Q: Reading porn story is a sin?

Q: My son spent the weekend with us. When he was leaving, he was was rushing so I asked him if he was rushing for an appointment. He said he is taking his wife to the gynae. I asked if she was expecting and he replied No. That night he phoned to say that his daughter wanted to speak to me. Excitedly, she told me that her mummy was having another baby. I phoned my son the next day to ask him if his wife was expecting. To my surprise, he got upset and told me to stop probing. I told him that I am his mother and I will only make dua for him. He spoke to me very harshly and began arguing with me saying that by me asking him questions, his wife is having issues with him. His wife is a very controlling person and my son cannot do anything without her permission.I told my son that I will forward this issue to a mufti as he feels he is right and I am wrong . Kindly give me a solution as to what to do. I am really grieved at my son’s behavior. Jazaka Allah

Q: I'm a Salafi so I'm sure if there's a different opinion, but I'm a university student who wears the abaya and hijab. I encountered a male who is a missonary for Christianity. This missonary was trying to convince me that I should pray to Esa (Jesus) and NOT Allah alone. He asked me a question about how we the Muslims should fully believe that we will go to Heaven since Allah only who knows. I told him that in the Quran Allah said that He will only accept Islam as the final religion, anything else that is NOT Islam He will NOT accept. The missonary was STILL trying to convince me to pray to Esa and that Esa is an assurance to all mankind that each individual will go to Heaven. The missionary asked me again if I can pray along with him. The 1st time that's what happened that I explained. The 2nd time, I told him that he can pray for him, because I do NOT know how to get rid of him. So, he prayed, while he THOUGHT that I was praying inside of my heart. I was NOT following along. I was saying inside my heart in Arabic that I bear witness that there is no deity worthy of worship except Allah and I bear witness that Muhammad is His Final Messenger. I also said in Arabic that There is no deity except Allah. When the missionary finished his prayer for me, he told me that he comes to the campus every once a week to teach/explain the Bible. He gave me his number and a flyer. I told him "Thank you" and we both left. I immediately tore the flyer and threw it away. Could yoy please kindly tell me if I am still a Muslim and i have NOT disbelieved in Allah and His Messenger? My heart was and still enraged on what occurred and fullt believes in Islam as my religion.

Q: Its been years since I have been following you and it feels great to see the way you are serving in the way of Allah. May Allah Grant you more strength and make you flawless.

The time has come for me to seek personal guidance from you, that's the reason im here writing to you today. I'll try to get the clear picture of my story so that you can help me take my decisions. I'm 28 years old right now, I got into a relationship in June 2013 with this girl and the girl I got into relationship was already in a relationship but as she was my University mate and friend I naturally had a caring gesture towards her, she used to tell me at that time that she was not happy with that guy although she was in relationship with him for 7 years. Being aware of everything I cared for her and naturally fell in love with her and tried to help her get out of that relationship. I helped her getting out of that 7 year old relationship even I knew they were physically active for 7 years (they were frequently having sex for 7 years), but I had pure feelings for her and resisted everything for her love and I got engaged to her in Dec 2013, it was after a great struggle as her parents were aware of her previous 7 year relationship and was not willing to get her engaged that soon however we got married last year August 2016. (I'm trying to keep short as possible).

There are always ups and downs in every husband & wife relationship, I trusted her more than myself cause the gesture she showed since beginning made me trust her more, recently I clearly got to know that she again got into a relationship with this guy since June 2016 or may be earlier where she worked and is still working (we got married in August 2016) in the beginning I once noticed and told her that this guy is trying to approach you in a bad way so stay away from him but she still went on talking to this guy and they are in relationship till now, they are physically in contact since the begining (it's been almost 1.5 years) and they have spent time with each other in every possible way, they have spend time and had sex with each other before and after our marriage and my wife has expressed her feeling to this guy several times that she is not happy with me and want to leave me and they even planned how would it be done, and the guy has always supported her. I have always been noticing strange connection between my wife and this guy since months and when I used to ask her she always refused that she is not talking to him or she has no connection with him and I always trusted her and asked no further questions for the sake of respect.

Afterall I have come to know my wife has feelings for this man and at this point when last week I got to know everything she tells me that she has committed a great sin and has no feelings for him (she still has feelings for him that I know) but refuses in front of me so that I may not leave her, cause she knows the consequences she would face as we are connected to each other in so many different ways, it be family, professionally and friend circle too. (Because we were collegues at the University too).

My wife met this guy till last week and I know everything they did. I did istakhara to confirm my wife and this guy's relationship status. She has confessed in front of me getting sexually active and had intercourse with this guy and she still refuses that she has no feelings for this guy although I know she still has.

At this point i still have not left her caus I care for her and she's going mad these days because she know that I'll leave her, I can not bear this. I have doubts over my love cause she got into relationship with me leaving a 7 years old relationship telling me she was not happy and now she ended telling another guy that she is not happy with her husband (me) and wants to leave me making me think that she also had no issues with her 7 year old relationship and she only came to me on the basis of lust and desire.

Im in a very difficult position I have no clue and I have no reason left to trust her anymore I don't want to make things difficult for myself and for her anymore, I have started feeling sick since last week I have severe pain around my left chest, simple I can't bear it anymore.

Please help me getting out of this situation. I have started praying 5 times a day to seek Allah's guidance but I'm stuck with the dead mind and can't take a sensible decision. I don't want to live with her anymore i feel disrespected, betrayed and dead. Please help me over this issue, I'm unable to take decisions and need some guidance in the name of Allah.

Q: A boy said to another boy (black) in urdu which spells (kala), I said to him dont do that because Allah has created him. He then said "Qaala Rasoolullahi (sallalahu alayhi wasallam) " He was trying to justify that he didn't say kala (black) But qala (in Arabic) Rasoolullahi sallalahu alayhi wasallam. And he said that something after Qala Rasolullahi salallahu alayhi wasallam like a hadith and I don't know if its a real hadith or not maybe he said "Dont disturb someone" something like that and included saying "Dracula" also... then I asked him which hadith there is written "dracula" and I said to him dont make fun of hadith...

Here he made two mistakes

1. By justifying that he said Qala and not kala by using the means of hadith as I mentioned earlier

2. He said dracula also as I described in which manner he said that. Is he still a Muslim?