Serving one's mother

Q: I am the only child left from three siblings. 6 years ago my wife any myself made a decision to move from Cape Town to Gauteng along with our 3 kids. They are aged now 14, 8, 9. My dad passed on two weeks ago which is leaving my mom alone in Cape Town she is disable and not working. I want to know what does Almighty Allah and the Quran order me to do as my wife is refusing to move back to Cape Town and I want to move as I am not happy in Gauteng in any case. I want to move back to look after my mom. She needs me. In my view a wife is replaceable but my mom not. My wife and myself don’t have a “healthy” marriage in either case. Help me I do not know what to do I cannot sleep or concentrate nor do I eat. This is eating me up.

Fear of being unable to satisfy one's wife

Q: I am a male, 26 years old and newly married (7months). My wife and I are very good humans with average Islamic knowledge but very happy. I provide almost every common thing she needs and she is very happy in today's era, a car, house, clothes, food hangout, movies etc. very good and my parents are really happy with her. I have been a a bad human before and only Allah can forgive for the sins but I hate the past and very happy with present and looking for a better future.. Since I have had multiple sexual relations before and everything, I don't have a high sex drive anymore and my wife is pretty much a virgin as I know her family background and since I know women alot, I can tell that after living for 7 months with her... The thing is she is not interested in sex and because I have done so much bad in my past I also feel fine and I am never upset or sad when she gives me excuse if I try... But I am just scared since I want to be a nice Muslim. If this is my duty to satisfy her or if angels or Allah is angry at her bcz of me? I don't want sex from her if she cannot give me and I want her to go to heaven and that's why even if I have 1% sad feeling about sex I just say Allah I am happy and not upset with her I swear dont be angry on. But on my part I am scared if she curse me for not giving her sex? Since as I know women well but in this case by grace of Allah I am very nice husband overall so I have no doubt she is happy with everything else also the other thing I am scared is if she doesn't find me attractive? Since I'm not a handsome guy compare to average but women do get attached with guys if together so that shouldn't be issue.. My question is is it ok if we r happy and we don't sex at all or is it a must to have sex also i dont want kids now aswell so sex for pleasure is the only thing I'm worried about her the most.

Finding blood on one's clothing after making ghusal

Q: Whilst doing compulsory ghusl, you get a cut from a razor when removing hair from private parts and you realise this after few hours only due to seeing some tiny spots of blood on underwear, then is the ghusl and all the namaz prayed valid? Should one repeat the ghusl and namaz? I'm not sure if this was flowing. The tiny spots of blood would equal to a small amount of blood less than a coin however, the spots were scattered over an area of the underwear and this area could potentially exceed the coin size.

Permissible employment

Q: Is a govt job halal? Govt takes a loan and gives the employees salary from those money. Is it true? How to consume 100% halal food? When we go to others house as mehman and married to someone whose house is not that concern what should I do in that case?

Mother having an affair

Q: My mom had an affair...please help...I belong to a pretty religious family...We family members love eachother alot...we have heart to heart connection...but we are facing money problems from alot of time as my father dont undrstand about my mother's and his daughters daily needs. My mom starting borrowing money from people.. I agree my father is irresponsible towards our financial needs but he is a very good father and husband.. He loves my mom alot and he doesn't have any bad habbits...but he doesn't give her enough of money and he mistreated her verbally..he doesn't give her enough money because we have alot of financial problems .. my mom and dad have suffered alot...my mom strived hard to be a good wife but the situation became worst when we had no money and she had to borrow money from a man...whom she loved before marriage...as time passed she started texting and meeting him and they fell in love again...she now loves him alott...The relationship might be sexual too...but my mom is very religious and cries alot during namaz and loves my father too..but i just cant accept that my mom is having this kind of relationship with someone..It makes me cry everytime..It feels so bad to see her doing all this harram stuff...my heart breaks...I am not able to tolerate it anymore...my father trust's her alot...but she doesn't find enough of love in him...So she started falling for that man again...I don't know how to face all this anymore..if I ask her, all she says is that he is her friend...and the thing is I cant even force her or tell her about it..because she loves that man alot and she might even try to harm herself if something happens as she has suffered alot about this money problem, debts and all....What should I do?

Haidh

Q: Regarding haidh:

- May 3rd spotting

- May 9th bleeding started

- May 18th ended

- June 2nd spotting

- June 3rd bleeding started

- ended around 15th june

- June 28th, 29th spotting  

- July 1st abd 3rd spotting

- July 3rd

- July 5th bleeding started

So my question is regarding July as my bleeding lasted around 10 days. So do I start counting from 5th July or 28th June, because I assume from my habit that my bleeding will stop around 14th July,