Getting married without the permission of one's father

Q: If I have married someone without my father's permission, is it valid? There were people who were present during the marriage but I don't know them. Hanafi mazhab allows it but in Tirmidhi, its against this type of marriage. Why is it? What should I do now if I got married like this without knowing. Should I get married with him again with my father's permission?

Husband masturbating

Q: I have recently found out that my husband masturbates when he thinks I'm asleep. I know it is not allowed in Islam. What should I do? Should I ask him directly or just pray for him or ask my parents for help?

Wife giving ghusal to her deceased husband while in the state of haidh

Q: When a woman is in her haidh, she is not supposed to go near a deceased person. However, what if someone's husband passed away and he passed away at such a place where there is no male to do his ghusl. His mahram women are with him (his mother and sister). His wife is also present there, however she is on her haidh. Who will get the preference of doing his ghusl? Should the mother do the ghusl or shall the wife do the ghusl?