Reprimanding one's children and having prolonged ambitions

Q: 

  1. I am a mother and I sometimes feel I have done injustice, zulm etc when I try to resolve my young sons fighting issues(5,7 yrs old) shd I apologise to the kids or only do Tauba?
  2. Secondly I headed that it is wrong to have prolonged ambitions (Aarzoon ka lamba Hona) does this mean we cannot plan ahead our kids futures or carreer planning or saving for our kids marriages etc. please explain?

Discharge of a ma'zoor

Q: I would like to know please, if a women gets discharge:

  1. Does she have to make a fresh wudhu for zuhar salaah if she made wudhu after sunrise?
  2. If not does she have to check and remove the najasah?
  3. I the discharge is not regular(eg: she may not experience discharge for whole day), will she still have to make a fresh wudhu for each salaah?

Asking a buzurg to make dua for one

Q: Is it allowed to go to  a buzurg or a highly religious person who does a lot of ibadah and ask him to pray to Allah about my problem. And can we supplicate through an intermediary i.e through tawasul of a righteous one, living or dead e.g through Sheikh Abdul Qadir Jeelani. And I also want to know is it permissible for men and women to visit the shrines of say Sheikh Abdul Qadir Jeelani and other without committing any shirk and praying to Allah directly there?

Retrograde ejaculation

Q: Because of medication, I experience retrograde ejaculation. When I reach an orgasm during sleep (due to a dream), nothing comes out, since the sperm is redirected to the urinary bladder and comes out later, with the urine. Does such a "wet dream" necessitate ghusl even though it isn't wet in my case?