Talaaq ki alfaaz

Q: Aap se ye puchna hai ke talaq kisi bhi lafz se hojati hai maslan koi bhi lafz agar talaq ki niyyat se kahe to hojaegi? Ya is ke lia khas alfaz hai? Ya koi bhi kam talaq ki niyyat se kare magar moo se kuch na bole to hogi? Or agar talaq ka lafz pura na le adha lafz le. Jaise (talaaq) to hogi ya nahi?

Debating with someone who has incorrect beliefs

Q:

  1. I have one question. Mere neighbour hain he is Masha Allah a good person. But when it comes to religious beliefs he says that shias are muslims and we shuold not say anything about them thats fine. On further discussion he says that if we have any questions on masaail regarding to Islam, we shouldn't look for Aalims rather we should look for a solution ourselves by reading Qur'an and going through hadith books. Further on tableegh dawat isn't important for everyone and the book that tableegh people use thats ​Fazaail-e-A'maal has some weak Hadith. What should be said to him? Should I debate with him or not?
  2. Last week a jamaat came from Malaysia to my musjid here in New Delhi India. The people of jamaat came to meet him so he used to say jamaat people should go to people who are in real need like people should go in villages to people who are doing shirk following qabr parasti and all..
  3. We shouldn't blindly follow Ulama' as he thinks that every Aalim is not reliable.

Please answer my question. What should to be said and how should this situation be tackled?