Living in Zina

Q: My sister is living unmarried with her non muslim boyfriend. Yesterday, she gave birth to his son. They named their Son Job. Now people start to congratulate me because of this. Saying Mubarak and so on.  I don't like to be congratulated by this occurring. Actually, I don't want to have anything to do with this. How should I react according to our Islamic adab? Furthermore, Should my parents do the aqiqa for this grandchild? Because my sister is not intending to do so. And is it legitimate for them, to give him an Islamic name?

Husband communicating with another women

Q: My husband is talking to another woman. I have seen his messages on his phone and it makes me very uncomfortable. He goes to see her and talks to her everyday. Once I confronted him and he accuses me of asking for a divorce. At times I struggle with this but then I remind myself Allah has a plan for and sabr is the key. This is not the first time he has done this but I forgave him every time but on this occasion I cannot get it out of my head. I say to myself Allah is all seeing all knowing and Allah will show him and better him. But this does not satisfy my feelings. Please help.

Purchasing a cat as a pet

Q:

  1. Is it permissible to purchase a cat? I am of the Hanafi Madhab.
  2. If impermissible, please advise with regards to the SPCA.

To adopt a cat from them, based on the information provided on their website, it outwardly appears that no fee goes towards purchasing the actual animal itself.

Rather, R100 is allocated to a 'Pre-Home Inspection' where an "inspection of your property will be done to ensure that animals are placed in homes suited to their needs." Then, based on the suitability of your home, a further adoption fee is charged for a "health check, sterilization, first set of innoculations, micro chip, collar and ID disk. 

Cats: R405

Kittens: R405 (plus R300 refundable deposit)

Remorseful over the sin one has commited

Q: I have a few concerns. Recently I went for hajj and decided to change my life. I started praying and observing most of the fundamentals of deen. I recently got involved with a girl with the intention of marriage. We decided to communicate for some time and had met each other. I am however very strict on Deen and did not want to touch her. Through my weakness and the effort of shaitaan, I had committed zina with her. I had slept with her a few times. I am really sad about what I have done. I have repented and did not do this again. I am however still in communication with her because I want to marry her. I understand that I had committed a major sin and defeated the purpose
of marriage. I have also realised that pre-marital relationships before marriage is not allowed and this will take the blessings out of the marriage. I accept my wrong and I know that Allah is the most merciful and will forgive me. I had made taubah that I will not do that sin again. However, I am still  in communication with her preparing to get married. Please understand well what I have said. My questions:

  1. Understanding very well that I had defeated the purpose of marriage, what do I do now? I know the correct thing is to get married so I do not fall into this sin again. Because the blessings has been take away now, do I still marry this same women?
  2. I accept that I really messed up. I asked Allah to guide me. Since I defeated the purpose of marriage, how do I repair the situation. 
  3. Also, if I do marry her does this mean that no blessings will be in my marriage now?
  4. What is the solution? Also understand that I cannot just leave the girl and marry another women. I should marry this girl. I have made istikhaarah many times. I just need to know the way forward. Should I marry her or not? Because I already defeated the purpose of marriage. What if I do marry her, then does this mean my marriage will suffer and have no blessings?