Basing one's decisions upon what one reads or hears on the media

Q: I had an argument with a friend of mine regarding some of his Islamic views and now he has decided to cut all links with me because I do not agree with some of his views and beliefs. His first view was of the coca cola company which he says is funding the Israel state which is the biggest enemy of Islam. Being cautious of myself I asked him to prove it and he didn't give out anything saying it was owned by Israel or was started by a Jew and he asked me to consume pepsi products if at all I can't do without coke. We researched this with him and both are American owned firms and not Israeli as he said earlier. Secondly we disagreed on our views about a group of people by the name Alshabab who recently carried out an attack in Kenya and they claim to be using Islamic laws and anyone who disagrees with them is not a Muslim and is put to the sword. He supports them and I am against them by all means because they misuse Islam for their own personal gains. You can all search about them to see what type of people they are if you don't belive me. Now my friend says "I loved you for the sake of Allah but your religious stands on Muslims and Islamic affairs are worth hating and the prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) said the one who hates his friends for the sake of Allah will be under the shade of the lord. Today you lost my love untill you change your views on Islam. I may not even greet you when I see you in the street and we should stay away from one another". There is a lot in what he said but I can't say it all here. My question is did I do any wrong by merely disagreeing with his opinions and is the step he is taking towards his views and also me right Islamicaly? What is the next step for me?

Getting married as soon as a suitable match is found

Q: I am a 26 year old man. I am working, Alhamdulillah, in a reputed company for the past two years. My marriage was fixed to a girl a year ago. And I have collected the amount of Mahar, to be gifted to girl. And I also have enough money to buy the household goods. I didn’t want to take money from my father for those things, so I have collected the amount myself. The girl was selected after a great effort by me to convince my father to get me married, (he wanted my sister to marry first, who is 9 years younger than me, but later agreed to allow me to get married). After the girl was selected my father told that the marriage would take place only after present house is extended to a bigger size and constructed. I work in a different city far away from my home town. I told him that it’s not required to construct the house right now as I do not stay in the city and there is one empty room for me to stay whenever I come home. He told me that he was planning for the future so as to accommodate all my five siblings after their respective marriages. I kept quiet and later the house construction got delayed and started six months later. Now the house is almost complete, so I am telling him to fix the date for the wedding. He is still not agreeing. He is telling to wait for more six more months or a year. What should I do now? He is very casual on the issue of my marriage. What I am think is that, there can be no more money (may be due to construction of the house) to spend for day of walimah, which includes spending on food, booking function hall, etc. The girl’s father is a pious man. He would be ready to do a marriage as per Sharia, with least spending, but my father might not be ready, as I am the eldest son. How do I explain to my father as he is ready to listen to me on the issue of my marriage (but at the same time he keen in listening to me about my career and my job)? Please help.

Punishment for committing zina

Q: I am a married women for 13 years. My husband has been having lots of problem with his erection/sexual problem he has been like that for about 8 years. The doctor can't see a problem and said it could be blood flow problem to his penis and thats why he can't get an erection at all. The doctor has given several medications but no good till one injection they gave did work most of the time but not every time. Its been about years with this problem but now because of all my husbands problem I am very depressed and always got migraine/headache and now its been few months i have negative thoughts like going to sleep with a very close friend of mine and I cant stop my feeling for him now because of my depression. I don't want to think like that but I don't know why I do as I never cheated on my husband and don't want to! But why I am a feeling like that I prey to Allah to help me but I am still losing and bad thoughts are getting deeper? What would my punishment be from Allah if I did go and sleep with another man?

Smoking

Q:

  1. Is it permissible to smoke Shisha? I heard that its makrooh Tanzihi is this correct? If it isn't permissible to smoke Shisha what is the reason?
  2. Is it permissible to smoke cigarette or its makrooh Tanzeehi?