Determining the day of aqeeqah

Q: My child was born on 3rd September at 3:43 pm, that was 3rd Muharram. I want to perform aqeeqah on the seventh day which, according to me, falls on 10 th September (from 9th evening to 10th evening). But my wife says it falls on 9th September which according to me is wrong. 3rd Muharram ended on 3rd evening that makes the date of birth the 3rd, but that doesn’t mean that 1 day is completed.

When we count days it is counted as:

1st day is 3rd to 4th day
2nd day is 4th to 5th day
3rd day is 5th to 6th day
4th day is 6th to 7th day
5th day is 7th to 8th day
6th day is 8th to 9th day
7th day is 9th to 10th day

Now what she says is by the Maghrib of the 3rd day, 1 day is counted. She is insisting on the 9th.

Conditional divorce

Q: If somebody says to his wife "if you do this work, you will be talaq, talaq and talaq on me" and ofter some time her husband wants to give her permission to do the work which he forbade her from. In this case, will talaq apply or not?

Asking one's husband for separate living quarters

Q: I live with my husband, son and my elder brother in law. He is soon to be getting married insha Allah. I don’t want to live with him. I am trying to convince my husband to take some other place as I want some privacy and peace. It is haram by asking that ? Or am I a bad person just by putting my priorities my family’s happiness?

Whenever we discuss about this, initially my husband kept quit and then he used to say, yes we will see to it, but now he is forcing me and telling me I should live were he wants me to and if I want to shift to some other place leaving his brother then even I should stop all my contacts with my family. I don’t feel comfortable living with my brother in law. Is it a gunah for asking this to my husband? Please help me out.

Earning through redirecting people to ad websites

Q:

1. Is it permissible for me to earn money through redirecting people to ad websites? When they click on a link on my website, they will first be directed to an ad website which will display an ad for few seconds and thereafter they will be directed to the link they clicked on. The ad website will pay me for each person who views their website via me directing them there. Will it be permissible for one to earn money in this way?

2. Will it be permissible for me to earn through advertising for people on my website? I will display people's ads on my website and the ads do not contain any haraam elements (pictures of animate objects, etc.)?

Females wearing black clothing in the month of Muharram

Q: I recently received the following message: Ihyaaud-Deen WhatsApp Broadcasts *Wearing black clothing in the month of Muharram*

Q: In South Africa, should one avoid wearing black clothing during Muharram as the Shias wear black clothing?

A: Yes, if wearing black clothing has some resemblance with the Shias then this should be avoided.

My question is, I wear niqaab, majority of my clothing is black, because I simply love wearing black. Whenever I go out of my house, I have gloves that are black, a jilbaab that is black as well as a niqaab that is black. Even in my house I wear black most of the time. Can I wear black clothing without the intention of following the shi'ahs?

Fasting on the last and first day of the hijri year

Q: Please clarify if there is Hadith to fast on the last and first day of the hijri year. A pious person mentioned to me that in the book of Shaikh Abdul Qader Jilani (rahmatullah alayh), Ghunyat ul Talibeen, the Hadith is mentioned.

He sent me the picture of the Arabic book page with the Hadith, it is on page 90. I think it is not possible to make an attachment here.