Responsibility of taking care of old parents

Q: There seems to be a growing trend amongst our Muslims to pass on the responsibility of taking care of elderly parents to the daughters. Sons are evading the responsibilities although they inherit 2 shares and daughter in laws are afraid to accept that's it's the husband's responsibility and use hundreds of justifications on why the daughter should look after the elderly parents. Although knowledgeable about Allah's wisdom in choosing the sons, but are in total denial. In some instances, daughters are battling financially but are bullied into taking over the responsibility of the sons. Please advise and also have this as an ongoing discussion because people are conveniently stuck in their thinking about this issues because it doesn't serve their needs or are in huge denial although clearly spelt out in Allah's commands.

Females placing their elbows on the ground when making sajdah

Q: According to the Hanafi mazhab, females are supposed to be close to the ground during sajdah and should therefore put their elbows on the ground. But there is a Hadith in which Nabi (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) says that doing so is imitating dogs. Maybe that hadith was meant only for men, but just to be on the safe side, am I allowed to raise my elbows off the ground?

Finding a stain and odor on clothing after washing

Q: My non-baaligh brother often has accidents. This time, when he pooped in bed, I threw the bedsheets in the washing machine along with his underwear which was first washed by hand, and set the rinse 2 times for a total of 4 hours. During the second rinse I even threw in some of my clothes. As I was taking everything out of the dryer, the stains from the sheets were completely gone, and all the clothes smelled good, but then his underwear had a very light brownish colour and some odor. Does that mean the underwear is impure and everything else that was washed with the underwear is also impure? I put everything in the dryer before I noticed any of this so does that mean the dryer has to be purified now? What must I do?

Using money which was transferred into one's account by an unknown person

Q: I have a savings account in a bank. Someone transferred extra money which does not belong to me into my account. I enquired alot from the bank but they told me that it was from some government court. I called the bank more than 5 times and told them that I have no encounter with the court. They cannot do anything or provide any information. I waited for a long time for the owner to claim their money or contact me but unfortunately nobody claimed it. I'm in need of money for my marriage but my heart does not allow me to touch that amount. Please tell me if the amount is haraam or halaal if I spend it?

Maintenance and division of assets for wife after divorce

Q: A couple are married for 17 years with 3 young kids. The husband intends taking a second wife, but the first wife refuses and seeks divorce on the grounds that she will not be able to live under a polygamous arrangement.

1. What is the correct divorce procedure in this case and what are the rules governing maintenance of the wife?

2. What are the rules governing the division of assets acquired in the marriage between the husband and wife?