Q: Is it wrong to ask Allah for materialistic things such as a comfortable home for my kids and family or a car for myself?

Q: My husband is depressed because he is with his father in his buisness and his father does some haraam dealings. He doesnt want to be left with the haraam business after his father dies but doesnt know what else to do. In a depressing state about the situation he made comments such as:

This is a lesson I dont deserve

Theres no hope, I'm forced into doing wrong

I'm not a bad person

And a few others where he is basically saying that he doesn't deserve what he is getting. Is the above comments kufar?

Q: Would it be permissible to make use of the below laundry system to wash clothing?

Laundry systems that will revolutionise the local tourism sector use 80% less water and can save up to 22 000 litres per guest room in water consumption annually. And now these machines are available in South Africa.

Local Cape Town company, fanute, has signed a partnership with Xeros, the innovator of polymer cleaning technologies to exclusively distribute and service its award-winning laundry systems in South Africa.

Amidst the worst drought in over a century, Cape Town has imposed severe water restrictions of just 50 liters a day. The city is bracing for July 9th, which has been dubbed “Day Zero” – the day the city will cut off running water leaving 4 million people without water.

“The near-waterless washing system from Xeros is exciting and can potentially revolutionise the local tourism sector,” says Charl de Beer, manager of fanute. “Saving up to 80% water and nearly 50% electricity are metrics that resonate with South Africans, who are facing rising water costs due to the growing scarcity of these utilities.”

The Xeros laundry system replaces up to 80% of the water used in traditional washing systems with polymer XOrbs™ which gently massage textiles to provide superior cleaning results as compared to conventional aqueous washing methods. By combining the molecular structure of the XOrbs with a proprietary detergent solution, dirt from soiled items is attracted and absorbed by the XOrbs, producing cleaner results in ambient water.

The reusable XOrbs have a lifespan of hundreds of washes before being collected and recycled. The patented, award-winning system uses 80% less water, up to 50% less energy, and approximately 50% less detergent than traditional systems.

Q: I have a few questions regarding figuring out the end of my period. For the last 10 years, I had been relying on the opinion that once there has been clear discharge/dryness towards the end of one's menses, whatever comes after that in terms of colored discharge should be ignored. I determined my habit according to this rule (when I say dryness once, I considered it the end of my period and ignored what came after). Recently, I have been told that the colored discharge after menses is also considered menses (up to the 10 day mark) and one must make ghusl accordingly, multiple times when necessary. Is this the correct opinion?

If so, must I re-determine my habit according to this opinion or do I stick with my previous habit?

Lastly, since according to the first opinion, whatever comes after dryness is to be ignored, for the last 10 years I have been doing ghusl only once usually, and not repeating it following colored discharge afterwards. Do I have to make up all the prayers I did in this state for the last 10 years?

Q:

1. My mom is very innocent and sometimes takes decisions of some things which has more problems than solutions for us. When she tells me to do something then I do it because Allah says we have to obey our parents. Sometimes Abbu also shouts at me as to why am I doing such things. What should I do? Can I deny my mom or should I obey her?

2. People know that I listen to my mother, whenever and whatever work people want from me, they go directly to my mother and convince her and then my mother orders me to do that work. Sometimes I hate doing that work. Is there any chance of me denying my mom in these situations? 

Q: Some sellers (women) come near my home. They don't even ring the bell but wait for my mom to come out to talk to them. My mom doesn't know that they are there but unconsciously she goes to the door and sees them by the door. The seller woman laughs and asks if my mom wants to buy something. I don't know what is happening and how can she call my mom wirelessly every time?  

Q: My mom came out of being a munafiq many years ago. Many of my relatives are munafiqun and some are worshippers of snakes, jinns etc. My mom always reads Qur'an ruqya, muawwidatein and tasbih to protect ourselves from them. I sometimes feat that she may become mad by making so much tasbih and azkaar. But my fear that she becomes a munafiq again is more. Sometimes a person comes near our home, even if my mom is sleeping, she gets up and opens the door to see who is outside then she sees a munifiq man smiling.

Q: Does Allah teach human beings as he taught the son of Adam (alaihis salaam) how to bury a body from the crow? Is it permissible for a man to extract meanings from his surroundings like crows, birds, lizards, etc.? Many people, including my mother also does that, and the conclusion they reach comes out to be true. My mother then tells me that Allah is teaching me and making me learn.

Q: I suspect my cousin's husband of doing magic to me and baby, what should I do?

Q: I am married for 4 years. 2 months ago after an argument, my husband walked out and abandoned our baby and I with no contact or financial assistance at all since then. I am unemployed and currently studying. Immediately after he left, the elders in my family tried to contact him to set up a meeting for a reconciliation or even to understand why he walked out. My husband has refuted any contact my family or I make with him. He has since then hired a lawyer to fight for his rights as a fater. According to my husbands lawyer, my husband has no wish to reconcile and feels the marriage is already over.

Over the span of our marriage he has committed many act of abuse to me with the last being of sexual abuse which occured a week befor he left us. He has also done some disturbing acts towards our 3 year old daughter. All of these abuses are linked to only a single issue. He has made me the enemy of his parents. And he has done that from the beginning of our marriage with no questions asked . The sole reason of me remaining married to him was I felt that if only he understood I was not the enemy he would treat me differently. Him being a Moulana and a marriage officer, I sincerely felt that if he took the time to assess the truth he would have realized I have no fault in what he blamed me for. He has waltzed into my life caused an upheaval for myself, daughter and family and he has now walked out. He refuses to even say why he wants to divorce me.

I know what my grievances are towards him. And I have tried many avenues to help our marriage. But he has never once told me my fault or tried to explain why he hates me. I have never cheated on him, never stole from him, never abused him or belittle/insult him or his famiy. His only issue with me is that I prevented his parents from seeing our child. But that too is incorrect. Yes the day after my daughter was born I did say that I did not want them to see her. But this was due to a large number of terrible reasons including blackmagic. However within 5 months later and thereafter many many times my family and I have tried to speak to them and tried to get them to see their grandchild. But they refused everytime. He blames me for this. His ultimate goal was to provide a grandchild for his mother.

I dont want him back in fear that he is capable of fully sexually harming my daughter and I and even killing us. Its already going for 3 months and he still has not divorced me yet he is fighting for visitational rights. I have read on askmufti.co.za that if a man leaves his home on his own he is still liable to maintain his wife. He has shattered me emotionally. He has destroyed our lives. Im not greedy for his money but if that is a way I can seek relief from all of the anguish he has caused onto my family and I, I am willing to take it. His actions have damaged me. What are the rulings against him maintaining me. Is it Islamically so easy for him to simply abandon me because in his mind I am the enemy?