Breaking a vow

Q:

1. A condition for a vow is that it must be verbal and therefore if one cannot remember if he made a vow verbally or in his mind is it binding?

2. If I made a vow that I will give my first months wages from my new job to charity then I spend the money, is my vow broken and will Kaffarah be necessary? Or can I give the value of the first months wages another time in the future?

Taking care of one's aged mother

Q:

1. Please advise on the following matter.

A person was looked after by their grandmother from birth to until their grandmother died.At the age of 13 the person learnt that their mother did not want them at birth.The mother in the meantime married a Tamil man who after some time became muslim.The mother had another child and chose to look after the second child and felt uncomfortable around the first child.As time went on still staying with the second child who married a Christian lady and chose to be Christian the mother still stayed with child number 2. Many years after child number 1 married and migrate overseas due to being unemployed. Child number 1 benefited because the mother was working and had her house.As time went by child number 2 managed to transfer the house onto their name and now when the mother is old does not want to look after her.The mother on the other hand refuses to stay anywhere else as she has devoted her whole life to child number

2. What is the obligation of child number 1 as they reside overseas. Inshallah please advise on this important matter.

Next salaah time entering while one is performing salaah

Q: I am currently excused (chronic excuse) with regards to wudu due to bleeding. I know that my wudu breaks when the next prayer time comes in. However once or twice I took too long to pray and when I checked the time, I was a few minutes into the next prayer time. Are those prayers invalid? Would they be invalid if I wasn't excused with regards to wudu?

Marrying a boy of one's parents choice

Q: I have a sister and she is 25 years old and I am her elder brother. Recently we have fixed my sisters marriage with a person who I know. Now I came to know she loves another man, so personally me, my brother, my mother and father tried to contact the boy who my sister loves. When we asked him he says that he don’t want to marry my sister. I did my utmost level to make my sister marry the person she loves but he don’t want to marry her at any cost and he keeps giving excuses of his parents.

Now my sisters marriage is already fix and my sister says that whatever my parents say she will do. I am concerned about my sister and I want to see her happy.

A few days back I spoke to her and explained to her, so she said she will marry with the person her parents wants. Somtimes she is happy somtimes she is sad. I don’t knw what to do. Will I be accountable infront of Allah if she married to the person of our choice.