Boy insisting on marrying a girl

Q: A boy wants to marry me but he is already married and soon to be a father too. I try to ignore him but he is so possessive and said he will marry me whatever happens and he will try everything to marry me. He is doing wazeefas and he has a rohani mashire too. The boy is so commiteed to marry me but I am so worried because I can't live with his wife. I cant bear it because he stops every marriage proposal that comes to my house for me. Please help me.

Kaffaarah for breaking an oath

Q:

1. Will my kaafaaratul yameen be done if I give ONE poor person R200, as R20 is what an average meal would cost, or will it be more. If it is more, then how much will suffice?

2. I took an oath that I will not do a certain action, and if I did then I would keep 60 consecutive fasts. I then did the action, resulting in my oath breaking. What should I do now? How many fasts must I keep and how will I cover up for breaking the oath?

Marrying a Christian girl

Q: I am a Muslim guy and I have been in a relationship with a christian girl for a while. I am trying to make this relationship permissible on all aspects and I want to marry her but we are not planning to register this marriage in the court (not legal marriage) just Islamic so that we can be confident that whatever we are doing is not a sin/Haram. We are very serious in this relationship and we want to take it to a legal marriage level but not now since she is still a college student and her parents and not fine with her getting married that early. I believe, I can fulfil all the Islamic marriage requirements from bringing in witnesses to announcing my marriage. It's worth mentioning that we live apart in two different cities, more than 6 hours away from each other but we do see each other every once in a while.

My question is: Is marry this girl according to the Islamic laws permissible?

Marital problems

Q: I am a 30 year old women, with a 3 year old daughter. I am currently looking to seek Khula. My husband is also my first cousin and I was very happy with my marriage, however he left me over 2 years ago due to the following reasons:

1. Before we got married I had over £50k saved up as I worked for 10 years. Our parents had agreed for us to speak over the phone to understand each other before the marriage in a few weeks time. I told him that I didn't have my own home or place to rent yet & to give me 3 months to buy or find a place to rent. He refused at the time and said that we should get married now. He also said that he would be able to buy a home for us as he had enough money from his family (they were extremely wealthy) and for me to not worry about it - this conversation happened several times. So we married a few weeks later. Note I spent close to £30k on marriage. I offered to use some of the money I had left for either rent or to buy a property & also use the money he had promised he had to get a place - however for the next 3-4 years he just kept promising and using excuses to delay getting any money. Then he left me 2 years ago on the day I raised the point again about us moving out (note my father wanted us to leave his home where we stayed after we got married) with one of his excuses being he can't buy a home and that we can't be together. He never looked back at me or even tried to keep in touch with his child. Countless times I even offered to rent a place out myself for us be he just didn't want to.

2. We lived at my parents home after we got married and got his Visa to come to the UK. We actually in total lived here for 4 years. I helped to also provide for my own family because my father was on an extremely low income and also was the eldest child so I supported my mother, father & 3 other siblings. I told him this that I would need to support them before we got married & never did he object to it during the course of our marriage. However when he left me he used this as another excuse that he was annoyed I used to provide/help my family financially.

3. Another point is that he left me after 3 months of getting his permanent stay in the UK. So I'm assuming the Visa was the reason for the marriage.

4. I always tried to be very supportive to my husband helping financially - for e,g when our child was born I brought everything. I never once questioned him or even asked for any money because I understood he was on a low income & whatever is mine is his. Since the day he left 2 years ago he never made contact again with me. I don't know where he lives, some family members do but they don't tell me. Based on above reasons that he didnt support me financially and still doesn't, left me and my child without proper valid reason over 2 years ago - please could you answer the following questions:

1. Am I within my rights to request for Khula?

2. As I don't know where he is? What does Islam say about this? And how should I approach Khula? I don't want any money from him - as I am capable of looking after myself and my child. I just want peace and want to move on. More recently I had a proposal from an already married man who wants to support me & my child. (I don't know him & not spoken to him but we live in a close community and he heard about my circumstances at a local mosque) - my parents were told of this proposal through friends. If I go ahead I don't want him to break up with his first wife. In fact I would want to live together as a family.

1. Does he need to get consent from his first wife if we were to do a Nikkah?

2. My parents told me about it but are refusing to the proposal because he's already married - Can I marry him without my parents consent?