Controlling one's anger

Q: I am getting angry and cannot control it. I do not stop to reason and calm down but I just blurt out whatever I want to say without thinking to my husband, and when he leaves the house I get back to my senses and think what is wrong with me. I have very bad scary dreams and I am very restless at night when sleeping. Secondly I want to know if rukya is permissible and can it be done by a female? My third question. I am in a 2nd marriage and I have kids from my first marriage. How do I divide my property, car, pension fund and money in the bank? I have one son and 2 daughters.

Washing the nails in wudhu

Q: I have a problem that disturbs my ibaadat, personal life and family life. This problem is concerning wudhu. In my fingernails, some of the upper nail layer are peeling because I have peeling my nail bed. Must water enter under these peels. I have harmed my nail a lot. Must water reach only the surface of the nail or under (and not the cracks) because my nail (nailbed) is cracked because I harmed it.