Marrying someone against one's wishes

7 years ago By user2

Q: My question is regarding my nikkah. When I was 16 years old my parents wanted me to get engaged. We agreed on my cousin and they gave their word. Since I live abroad I didn't have much contact with him. When I went to Pakistan, I lived with him and saw no compatibility. I told my mother that I didn't like him anymore. After a while I started talking with another boy with whom I was interested, we planned on getting married after I had finished my studies. Now last year before my nikkah took place we were supposed to leave for Pakistan, my mother asked me if I still liked my cousin on which I answered no, but I also didn't tell her about my relationship with the other boy. I said that I want to study and not get married so soon. We went to Pakistan and there they wanted to get my nikkah done. I had to tell them the truth that I can not marry my cousin because I like someone else. After much emotional blackmailing I agreed and told her ok, but soon I realised my mistake. My heart still didn't agree. I tried speaking to one of my aunts who assured me that this nikkah won't take place since there are only 2 days left and much preparation to do. I believed her and, I got satisfied and said nothing. Now, one day before going back home they brought the Imaam and planned the nikkah. At that time I begged and I asked my aunt to please stop it but she said it was too late if I don't agree now, my dad can divorce my mother and she can also get a heart attack. Being in that much pressure I signed the nikkah with the intention that I will later break it. This was one of my biggest mistakes but I was left with no choice. My question is, is my nikkah valid? Can my parents ask me to break it? I have no intention to stay with my present husband. My parents are asking for the validity of the nikkah.

Wife giving zakaat to her husband

7 years ago By user2

Q: My husband is in heavy debts. I have a good amount of gold given to me in my marriage as a gift by my parents, in-laws and relatives. The zakat on gold amounts to thousands of rupees. I am a housewife so whatever my husband gives me for my personal expenses is the only income I have. First year of my marriage I sold a few items of my gold and paid off the zakat to nearest relatives who were in need. Now I heard about this following hadith: Al-Bukhaari (1462) and Muslim (1000) from Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri (may Allaah be pleased with him), that when the Nabi (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) commanded the women to give in charity, Zaynab the wife of ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood came to him and said: “O Prophet of Allaah, today you told us to give in charity. I have some jewellery and I want to give it in charity, but Ibn Mas’ood claims that he and his child are more deserving of my charity.” The Nabi (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: “Ibn Mas’ood has spoken the truth. Your husband and child are more deserving of your charity.” So I ask you if you could clear my doubts regarding it accordingly. Can I give the amount my husband gave to me for my peesonal expenses as zakat back to my husband so he could pay off his debts? 

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