Family problems

Q: My mother sold her house without asking me and my wife. Suddenly we got shock that she sold house. My wife sent a whatsapp massage to my sister and cursed all. One of my brother' s wife got naraz. When we were going to Umrah we came to know she was naraz with us. My wife called for sorry. She forgave but broke the relation and told she will not keep any relation....in fact they sold house without asking us....my wife became emotional and cursed them. Now after three years we come to our country they did not come to pick at airport we already informed them ....did not try to meet. In fact we went to their door but did not call us. In fact I invited them on Eid breakfast but my brother's wife did not come. My brother came but did not eat any thing. Please guide me according to Islam. We want to keep the relation but they did not take a single step. Please guide us who is sinner?

Ambiguous word of talaaq

Q: I'm a Muslim and I have a few questions about my situation with my husband which I hope you can help with.

We been married for 4 years and one time we had an argument and he was so angry that he couldn't control what he was saying and I asked him for a divorce and he said that we are divorced, then he took me back in the same day. Another time, over the phone we had a big fight and he said to me that we will finish but we stayed together and we got advice from the imaam that it is not divorce. This week we had a fight and I gave him a choice for something either that thing or we finish, his reply was so we finish then and told me that its not his choice for that thing as it has nothing to do with him.

So we don't know if this talaq is done or not as I was on my period again. And other thing is that he is saying that he thinks that there is another time he said we finished in between these divorces times but he is not sure and I can't remember that it was any other time. So we are not sure if this is our third talaq or not and if this last one happened, also we don't know if we are still married or not.

We love eachother and we want to stay with eachother, we just want a halal life.