False allegations and accusations levelled against the Ulama of Deoband

Q: I am a Sunni Muslim following the Hanafi school of thought and I reside in a small state of India where the population of Muslims is only 8% i.e. approximately 220,000, almost all which identify with the Sunni sect and follow the Hanafi madhab. In matters of spiritual and religious guidance we laymen consult our local imams, most of who acquired their education from other states and almost all of them follow the teachings of Darul Uloom, Deoband, India.

However, after reading some published text materials on religion and many online lectures, I am very confused as these writers and orators claim to be of the Sunni sect, following the teaching of Hajarat Imam Abu Hanifa in case of Fiqh, etc. but differ a lot from what the imams at our local mosque preach. Most of us highly regard the writer of ‘Heavenly Ornament’ Hajarat Asraf Ali Thanwi Mujaddid e Alf thani, along with the ‘Tablighi’ movement, ShahWali Ullah,etc. and condemn the teaching of Abul Ala Maududi, Dr. Zakir Naik, Ahmed Deedat, etc. These scholars however, contradict our imams and condemn Asraf Ali Thanwi Mujaddid e Alf thani and his elk as heretics (innovators) while accepting Maududi. I am very confused on whose words to take as I have no source for authenticating what our local imams preach or what the orators and the published text suggest. Although not much, I do understand that our Nabi (pbuh) declared that the group that holds firmly to his way and the way of the Sahaabah (ra) are the rightly guided ones. However each claims to be this ‘rightly guided ones’ all the while endorsing different and conflicting ideologies.

In light of the above conflicts, I am at a religious dilemma as to which one may be the right one to follow. I shall be highly obliged if you advise me on this matter and help me identify the way of the ‘rightly guided ones’. Kindly intimate me which one Hanafi madhab is the right group?

Suspending a khula

Q: I am separated from my husband for more than 6 months. My husband tries to arrange meeting and reconciliation but I dont want to go to my husband's home. Now my husband sends me notices that if i do not come within a particular date, it will be declared as a khula as I am not interested in any reconciliation done from my husband and he can get married again. If i don't reply or go on that particular date, will the khula take place? What will be the iddat period?

Issuing a divorce in court to dissolve a COP marriage

Q: Unfortunately we grew up in a time when our Islamic knowledge was very limited, hence it lead to a lot of mistakes and sins that we have committed. One being in question is that when we got married we followed the kaafir law of COP not realising and understanding the concept. Today it brings up alot of complications. Living in our country it is very difficult. People have advised us that the only way to rectify this is through an English divorce at the court. I am very afraid of this as the law of talaaq is not a simple issue and I don't want to live in sin and regret. Can Mufti Saheb please advise me on this.

What to look for in a potential suitor

Q: I am really confused. Everyone says that in life you can't focus too much on beauty when it comes to a potential suitor. Then, they say "no. But you have to be attracted to him". But then if I am not attracted to anyone except for a very specific few, then "no, you're being too fussy and need to lower your expectations in life" then when I say okay, how do I lower my expectations? How do I force myself to be attracted to somebody who doesn't really match up to what I had in mind? Then they say "No. don't lower your expectations, expect the best from Allah and have faith that he'll give you what you want" then I say okay fine I expect the best. Then they show me somebody and I can't find it in my heart to have the slightest bit of attraction towards them then they say "if you don't find this person good looking you need to lower your expectations" then I ask how , "no have faith in Allah, you'll get what you want" ... so I don't know what to do. first they say expect from Allah then they say lower your expectations. Which do I do and HOW? It's not as if I'm only focusing on looks, I want piety and looks in a person and I'm not willing to compromise on either. Money is not a main focus but looks and piety are. I have never spoken to any non mahrams much in life so i feel like why should my first relationship ever be with someone that is unappealing to my eye? It's not as if I feel deserving or entitled or think that I'm so holy for not ever engaging in haraam relations but I just think it might be a disappointment to have the one relationship you ever have be with someone you just can't seem to be attracted to. Also. If I read "Rabbana Hablana Min Azwajina Wa Dhhuriyatina Qurata A'yewnew waj Alna Lil mutaqina imaama" will I get someone who I find good looking? Because it's a dua for our spouses to be the coolness of our eyes and he can only be a coolness to my eyes if I am attracted to him right? And I will only be attracted to him if he meets my expectations which means that all I have to do is read this dua and have faith and not lower my expectations right?