Birthday party

Q: I was an orphan and was brought up by my father's brother. My cousins are planning to give a surprise birthday party calling all his close people like friend's, relatives, etc. I normally don't attend birthday parties but now I'm confused. I don't want to attend the party but at the same time I feel bad because they will feel bad since we were all brought up in the same house like his own children. In recent times our relationship has distanced to some extent, I'm in a dilemma that if I don't attend will our relationship further worsen. 

Marital issues

Q: I'm a 29 years old  married woman and i have a 10 months old baby. But because of some problems between my mother in-law and sister in-laws, I decided to leave that house and now I'm living with my parents. I love my husband a lot but he is not ready to support me. He wants to leave me. I really don't want to live with my in-laws but don't want to leave my husband. What should I do ???