Contraceptives

Q: My question is regarding the Islamic teachings of having offsprings after marriage as Islam strictly prohibits the birth control methods. I have three kids. All unplanned and my husband blames me for having them as he suggested to abort the second and third one. Allah blessed me with a boy and two girls but my husband keeps saying at least 5-10 times per day that we have a lot of children and blames me for having them. What should I do? How to save myself from the mental trauma as he blames every single thing on having babies?

Temporary nikaah

Q: I read in a fatwa according to Mufti Taqi Uthmani (D.B.) if there is a strong possibility of falling prey to Zinaa and fornication then it will be permissible to marry a woman on a temporary basis with the condition that no mention of time is made in the actual enacting of the Nikaah. Temporary Nikaah is not at all encouraged by the Shari’ah therefore it will only be resorted to in dire need. My question, if one really fears zina, can both partners intend to be just a time, but in the actual nikaah no time limit is mentioned. And in really dire situation can one do nikaah with a prostitute? I know that that is a disgusting question, but I want to know what's the ruling if one fears zina and gets depression etc, will the nikaah be valid with two witnesses?

Making tawbah and crying over one's sins

Q: I am very sinful. Repeatedly I make tauba but I break it all the time by repeating my sins. My questions are as follows:

1. Should I stop doing good Amaal like coming out in Jamaat or sitting in the front saff of the Musjid?

2. When giving Bayaans in Jamaat, I feel hypocritical. Should I stop giving these bayaans?

3. Should I stop travelling to holy places because I am filthy with sins?

Taking an oath to become a disbeliever if one does a certain action

Q: I would like to ask I made an oath that if I do such an such then I am a disbeliever after I marry my fiance who I really want to marry. When I made that oath I felt like I meant it when I said I will be a disbeliever. If I marry my fiance does this mean that I will be a disbeliever? I regret what I said and I am now worried. What should I do, please help me.

Marital problems

Q: Does a wife have to obey her husband if he tells her she can't read istikhara? My husband insists that we live with his parents and unmarried brothers. I have told him that I cannot live there anymore as it is too stressful and besides my room and bathroom I have no privacy. Even when my room door is closed one can still hear us talking etc. From outside the room and even downstairs. We have 2 children and they both sleep in the room with us. My husband and I have been have many marital issues and I eventually left and went back to my parents home because I could not manage living there and I could not take his behavior towards me anymore. He told me that it is haram that I left. I wanted to read istikhara about whether I should go back but he has forbidden me to. Is this correct?