Marital problem

Q: I and my wife are currently experiencing marital issues/problems. After a heated argument/exchange I said to her that she must be out of the house when I get home. On my return that evening I found that my wife had indeed left, taking our four kids, all of their clothing, all of the groceries and some items which belonged to me. Apparently she went to her friends home and later that week to family (She was gone for a whole week), Subsequent to this I was served with a protection order wherein the Magistrate declared that I am to leave the property and that I am barred from entering my home until some time in October when the court will make a decision relating to the order whether it may make it permanent. I have been in a state of depression ever since and am now sharing a BED with my uncle as I have no other place to go to. I have not issued any Talaaq but have been instructed by her family that I must continue paying the rent and expenses as nafaakaah. Firstly, what rights do I have here, my wife does not want to re-concile saying that she needs time as I have caused too much damage over the 14 years of marriage. She says that she has until October, this is very unfair to me (my opinion) Admittedly I have done wrong in the past, I have expressed regret and remorse but she seems to not be listening / willing to let me back. I love my kids and do care for my wife and do not want to lose them. Please guide me and assist me here even if the pill is bitter to swallow.

Irregular bleeding

Q: My last period date was 26 june till 1 july2015, but before 8 days I felt some unclear discharge which was not reddish but yellowish like, and after finishing periods this discharge remained for four days but I was still fasting at those discharge days, so my question is that did I do qada of 7 days fast, its enough or that four days of discharge after the period will also consider be considered as impure? Should I do qada for these four days also?

Making umrah in the state of istihaazah

Q: I live in Saudi Arabia and want to perform umrah on Sunday (9 August ) before returning to South Africa. However, my menstruation has begun today (7 August) and my last period ended on 26 July (it was the full ten days). The space between then and now is 12 days and I am still performing my salah as to my knowledge there has to be a 15 day gap. Can I preform umrah or not?

Discharge after haidh

Q: If a lady after experiencing about 6 days of haidh and from the seventhday slightly coloured discharge, will it be regarded as haidh if

1. The discharge is white when wet but coloured after drying

2. It is very slightly brown/yellow (not pure white) when wet but white when dry and:

a. If it is so little that it does not stain the pad but when making istinjaa it is felt that there was discharge, and now the colour is not known, what should be done?

b. If a lady becomes paak one hour before shoot, does Esha Salaah and taraweeh become fardh on her?

Getting married in the presence of two witnesses

Q: I write to seek truth and guidance. Eight years ago at the age of 18, I met a 25 year old Muslim man and we entered into a serious relationship. Three months later I converted to Islam. We continued the relationship still, including zina. When we thought about marriage, both first marriages, we met with a sheikh to discuss an Islamic marriage, where he advised us to stay away from each other and to seek forgiveness and repentance before entering marriage. Unfortunately we did not comply, continuing sins even days before we preformed an Islamic marriage contract. Neither he nor I repented, separated, or observed a waiting period to see if pregnancy was apparent before the contract was made. Also, as a convert, I did not have a Wali when we did the marriage contract, and the actual contract states "herself", as I was my own Wali. Now we have been together since and just gave birth to our second son. I am asking to know if our marriage is valid or invalid (batil), and also the status of our two children if they are legitimate or not and can inherit from their father according to Islam. Also where do I stand from his family, including his brothers and his father, if they are or ever were relatives of mine if the marriage never existed or is invalid and are they related to our two children in any way if invalid. Please advise.