Martital issues

Q: My husband walked away from our marriage (like many minor times in past) giving me the reason that he doesn't trust me, his parents will make decision for his life, he is dependent on them, his family will decide to who to name his business to and how his marriage life will move on. I live in USA and he came here because of my sponsorship, and since he has been here, I truly feel that he has gotten weak in this relationship of ours since he came to USA, and he was guided wrong about me by his family. He fought with me because of the things he was fed. He told everything to his family and didn't leave any room to uncover me and our marriage in front of others, as much as I try to hide our problems and to solve between us. He then never came back to me to resolve things and it has been 3 months. He stayed with his family, cared for them and cared for his business instead of saving the marriage. I don't know if I can trust him with my life one more time or not. I don't know what his intentions are for future even though he wants me back. Honestly the way he is doing things is as if he is picking the wrong time to do things and all his actions/deeds have not shown that this relationship is his priority. I seek guidance from Allah and I request some help or guidance for me and what should I be thinking or doing in this conditions.

Doubts regarding impurity

Q: A year back something impure like alcohol fell on my slippers when I went to some place. Now I don't remember whether after coming back I washed it or not or later I washed it. I don't remember whether I kept the slipper unwashed or washed in my cupboard. Though after that I have washed it a lot of times but I can't remember whether that time I had washed it and kept it in my cupboard. Now my other shoes were also kept in there with these and I can't seem to remember whether I kept them inside washed or not. Will my other shoes be impure or will the cupboard be impure as the shoes might have touched. I'm feeling very distressed please help.

Saying Aameen in one's heart in Salaah

Q: As far as I am aware, speaking intentionally or unintentionally will nullify the salaah and it will have to be re-prayed again according to the hanafi maddhab (although, if I am incorrect in my understanding then please correct me jazak Allah khayr). The question I would like to ask is that say for example, if I recite اَللَّهُمَّ رَ‌بَّنَا آتِنَا فِي الدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةً وَفِي الْآخِرَ‌ةِ حَسَنَةً وَقِنَا عَذَابَ النَّارِ‌ and in my heart I say Aameen but my tongue may move slightly unintentionally, however there is no sound of any letters coming out, can that be classed as speaking in Salaah?

Wearing a taweez

Q: What is the ruling regarding a baby or any person for that matter wearing a Taawiz for protection as well as wearing black beads? Can we not put our faith in Allah by simply reciting the various surahs and duas for protection?

Waxing the private areas

Q: What does Shariah says about women waxing the private parts every month? Is it necessary to wax every month because here it is said that if you won't wax regularly, you won't be clean even after a ghussul and the salah will be invalid.

Consulting one's elders with regards to nikaah

Q: I am in love with a girl who is my aunts daughters. I want to legalise this relationship by performing nikaah with her but my parents are against it due to internal disputes with my aunt. Will it be right if I go against them as I see no chances of they getting convinced and if I want to convince them suggest me ways of convincing them. I feel very depressed and confused.

Washing the toilet seat

Q: If someone is in a state of Janabah and when using the toilet, semen falls on the toilet seat, will using the jug to splash water on the toilet seat wash away the semen or should a wet toilet paper be used also to wipe the seat to make sure it's clean?

Correct pronunciation

Q: When we say the Kalimah Laa Ilaha ILLAllah Muhammadur Rasulullah, then can we also say La Ilaha ILLAllah Muhammadun Rasulullah? With the nūn? Because in my local masjid there used to be a muezzin who used to say Ashadu Anna Muhammadun Rasulullah or Muhammadan Rasulullah, and the Imam said he was wrong and it should be said as Muhammadur Rasulullah.