Marital problems

Q: I am a married woman and have three children. I am staying in India whereas my husband is working abroad. I am married since the last ten years. In theses ten years I have seen that my husband is very short tempered. He often gets fits of anger. He is a very loving husband but when he gets upset on anything whether it is my fault or not he shouts at me, insults me, uses bad words for me and my family and even beats me in front of my children, his parents, brothers and sister. It seems as if he has become mad. Many a times it happens that he doesn't even talk to me for months. As a wife I never felt close to him. He is a very religious person but has no control over his anger. I feel very lonely and my life has become a hell. Please suggest me some dua or wazifa for my husband's short tempered nature and to gain his love and respect.

Doubts regarding make up used after consuming alcohol

Q: I used to consume alcohol some time back. Now I have repented and asked for forgiveness as I was misled. I want to know that I was not very cautious about purity and I used make up and make up sponges etc. I have even used lipsticks after consuming alcohol. Now I am in doubts. I have thrown away the lipsticks I was sure about but I have to think very hard that whether I used the makeup sponge over the lipstick or did I use the powder over it and I keep doubting that whether I used a powder or sponge over impure lipstick. Where did it touch where did I keep it and keep cleaning those places. I cannot remember everything clearly. Should I just stop thinking and just use the makeup I have and not over think or worry about being impure or should I think over it. This thinking has really affected my life and I am feeling if I use my prayers won't be accepted and I will be impure. I'm feeling devastated as if there are no answers and I just eventually have to throw away everything.

Doubts regarding impurities

Q: Please help me. You have helped me a lot throughout. If a person consumes alcohol and uses makeup like lipstick and all and if that lipstick touches one's hand does everything become napaak? You always say if there are no traces of alcohol then it is pure. How can we be sure that there are no traces of alcohol in a persons mouth as the taste and smell of alcohol stays if you are consuming it. I consumed alcohol a long time ago and I have repented and now when I think about the makeup I have used and what I touched I'm becoming doubtful. I have thrown away half the stuff I used. I feel may be they have traces as I don't remember everything and I am in doubts. It has become very stressful.

Secret nikaah

Q: I would like to know my friend is sixteen and he is getting married to a girl who is sixteen. He is going to have his two friends as witnesses and he will give mahr and both the boy and girl will sign a contract. They both are Muslims. I wanted to know if the nikaah will be accepted as there is no guardian from the girls side because her parents says it's to early to get married.

Giving extra zakaat

Q: Is it ok to give extra zakaat than the amount that is compulsory due incase in previous years you might have made a mistake because I have a lot of doubts and think things over and over again whether I did things right?