Being questioned on the day of Qiyaamah

Q: Many a time, when making tashkeel of people, we tell them, "How will we answer to Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) or Sahaba (Radiyallahu Anhum) on the Day of Qiyamah if we don't go out in jamaat?" Or "What answer will we have for the non muslims on the Day of Qiyamah, when they come to us and say "You never brought the message to us'?" I was under the impression that we will only be questioned by Allah Ta'ala regarding life, youth, wealth and knowledge.

1) Are these statements made during tashkeel in keeping with the beliefs of the Ahle Sunnah Wal Jama'ah regarding events that will occur on the Day Qiyamah?

2) Will there be other forums/gatherings where people will interact and converse amongst themselves? If so, pls provide proofs in English.

3) Should we continue giving this type of "targheeb" or refrain?

Wearing a topi to work

Q: A friend of mine was told by his sheikh that it is ok if he does not wear his topi to work. I was going to tell him to ask what the wisdom behind that was. I know with all the stuff that is going on it could be a reason. But it does not sit well with me. The Yahood wear there hats. The Sikhs wear there turbnans. Why should us Muslims be afraid to be Muslims or shy away just for there work places. Please explain me the wisdom because I keep getting bad thoughts towards his sheikh. I stop them as best as I can. But it is just bothering me.

Rejecting a proposal

Q: Is it wrong Islamically to reject a marriage proposal because the guy has a disability. Alhamdulilah he is a good guy but he has a speech disability wherein he stutters a lot. Sometimes it's difficult to understand what's he is saying.

Doubting if one had wudhu when one lead the Salaah

Q: A person was in 30% doubt about whether he had wudhu, but gave himself the benefit of the doubt and attended the masjid. He was called to lead the salah as the imam was not present. After salaah this doubt becomes 70% sure that his wudhu had broken previously.

1) What is the condition of his salaah, and all the Muqtadis?

2) if he was 100% sure now that his wudhu had broken, what now would be the ruling?

Inheritance

Q: My father passed away last year and left a verbal will of how his estate shall be distributed amongst his children. The family are all aware of this as it was said to all of them. We are now in an unislamic court over the matter since one of them is just being plain greedy. Please advise.

Abortion

Q: I am a female blessed with a son (2 years old) and now expecting again but I am very weak and so scared to have another child. Now my question is what does Islam say about abortion for a weak woman?