Lengthy aspirations

Q: I have read a hadith that a sign of an unfortunate person is that they have fancy aspirations (something to the effect). Are there any guidelines to determine if your aspirations are fanciful e.g. not of benefit to Deen, aspiration is motivated by competition?

Teaching in the Musjid

Q: Is it permissible to teach in the masjid and take a wage? If it is not permissible, does this apply only within the boundary or outside as well? Does this apply if an ustaadh is given permission by the mutawalis as well?

Conducting a mashwarah regarding worldly affairs in the Musjid

Q: In our Masjid, Mashwarah is undertaken regarding annual get together for food. The objective being how we can connect youngsters to the Masjid and an effort of Deen. In this Mashwarah, we decide where the meal or braai will be held, who will bring what food, how many people will be invited and what time the braai will be? Bearing in mind this objective, is it permissible for us to conduct this particular Mashwarah in the Masjid?

Hurmat-e-musaahara and shahwat

Q: Recently I have come across the following situation and I am very distressed. Please could you advice me further. My mother was waking me up for the morning prayer and she touched my hand, without any veil in between, and I had a feeling in my private part. However, this feeling was possibly due to fear of erection happening. Also, I had a feeling in my heart when she touched me. However, as it was straight from waking up, I couldn't think properly and my mind just let it be. In the end, there was no obvious erection that occurred. Does this constitute hurmat musahara. Also, what is the meaning of shahwat for this masala. I have read on two respected websites different definitions. One says the occurrence of an erection, whilst the other says an arousing feeling in the private part. Please help me, as this is distressing me a lot, along with the possible implications.