Q: My question is on the hadith that says about the raising of ones children better then how ones parents raised you. Can I please have the reference of the hadith and perhaps some in debt explanation on it?

Q:

1. Is it permissible to keep a wedding venue or invite people for food in a church hall, the hall is attached to the church but separate from the hall where the Christians have there prayers etc ?
2. Please explain in detail the reason if its not permissible?

Q: In the present times we find a lot of people over enthusiastic in matters of religion which of course is not wrong. However they begin to believe that having learnt word to word translation of the Quran and having read the literal translation of some Hadiths they have  understood the real true meanings of the sacred texts. So much so they start indulging in debates and arguments in religious matters and begin to believe, based on their self acquired knowledge, that only they are in the right path and everyone else is wrong.

My question is:

1. Is self acquired knowledge through reading books alone the correct method?

2. Can One really understand the real meanings of ayats of Quran and the meanings of Hadiths by just reading the English translations?

3. What is the correct method of acquiring religious knowledge.

I have heard a saying "Books teach Words. Men train Men".

Q: What is the meaning of istihalah when something najis becomes pure? Like gelatin from pork?

Q: I have been married for three years. I am a doctor and doing a job since the last 9 years. My in laws are very well off but after marriage my
husband simply said that he cannot bear my expenses and even asked me to give my salary to his mother. I started giving a handsome amount to his mother every month but I had to bear all my expenses myself. My husband also wanted sexual relations as many times a day as he desired and when I refused he beat me when I was four moths pregnant with my first son. At the time of birth of our first son I bore all the expenses myself and I told my husband that I will not give my salary to his mother since I have to look after myself and my son. My husband and his mother started pressurising me to quit my job and when I refused my husband beat me very severely. At that time I was pregnant. Then my mother in law asked me repeatedly to get the pregnancy aborted which I did not and I came to my mother's house in march 2012 and since then I am bearing all the expenses of my kids and me all by myself. My husband does not pay a single penny and hardly ever calls to ask about the kids. In the light of these what does the Shairi'ah say about my not wanting to have any sexual relations with my husband? If I take khulaa what would be the status of my kids knowing that their father does not care about them at all?

Q: In a dar al kufr country, can the money from the kafir government be halaal to take by any means? Such as taking it by deceiving them through lying? Is any advantage alowed in a darul kufr by any means for a Muslim?

Q: 

1. Many Madaris and Makaatib have Madrasa holidays on 12th Rabiul Awwal because Prophet Muhammad S.A.W was born on that day. Is it permissible to keep Madrasa holidays on 12th Rabiul Awwal or is it bidah?
2. Did the Sahabah etc keep holidays on  Prophet Muhammad S.A.W birthday?

Q: I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend. Today it came to my knowledge that black magic is being done on me. My parents are now thinking
to consult a mufti to help get rid of this magic. I just wanted to ask that if they consult a mufti so can he get to know about my relationship?

Q: I have a problem reciting a certain part of the Tahiyyaat in Tashahhud. The part is: "...wa alaa ibadillaah'is salihin.." I have trouble pronouncing the last letter "n" out. Is it also permissible to read that part as: "...wa alaa ibaadillaah as salihin.." ? Thus "ibaadillaah" and "as" seperately, instead of connected as "ibaadillaah`is"?

Q: At times when I take out a garment to wear from the cupboard, I notice some substance of najaasat on it (not just the trace), what is the condition of the other garments washed together in the washing machine. Many a times I don't even know which were the other garments as it was only noticed after a few days. And if I know which were the other garments, then in this case also,what will be the ruling?