Breaking ties with a person who has bad habits

Q: I would like to know if breaking ties with a family member is allowed, because my husband's sister does all the wrong stuff like going clubbing she and indulges in adultery, smoking, consuming alcohol and drugs. The only reason that I have to keep contact with her is because she had taken a loan from me and still has not returned it, but as soon as she pays me back I would like to break every relation with her, because I feel that she is a bad influence and I also have 2 daughters growing up so I would like to know if my decsion is correct?

Solution for those in despair and helplessness

Q: Please pray for me and give me guidance. My soul is so lost and broken. I am a sinful Muslim and have committed many sins against Allah. And now I realise the errors of my ways. I am in a very bad place and don't know how to gain my self respect back. I am in love with a man that does not love me, we are not married but were at one point intimate friends and hoped to be married. But things changed and he stopped loving me. However since then we have just been friends. Me being in the hope that he would realise that I love him much and he would marry me. However all this man has done is to take advantage of my feelings play with my emotions and leave me feeling like a worthless human taking advantage of my kindness. I know I probably deserve what I am getting now. But I am so sad and in despair. I need some help and support and don't know what to do. My situation is so bad I have been humiliated and shamed by him through the way he speaks to me and the things he does and how he constantly toys with my emotions. I need help please advise me on how I can get it together and loose the love of this man from my heart for I have tried for 10 years or more. He will not leave me alone always calling me and manipulating me and I am weak and always fall for his traps and he uses my friendship to make fun of me for amusement. Yet I can't fight this or see this for what it is. Please give me a prayer or wazifa. I know my request is shameful but I have no one to turn to.

Respect to parents

Q: I just want to know what are the rights of the parents taking into consideration the following scenario:

I am 27 years and am currently staying with my parents, and have been staying with them since I came back from university. I have been going to see prospective spouses for the last 5 years, and my parents have insisted that I stay with them (even though I had three sister staying in the same house with us then , now they are all gone) after I get married, I did tell them that it is her right to have her own place, but they refused to listen, and my father is very temperamental, so I couldn't even say anything otherwise he'll bring the whole roof down. So for the last five years I had to ask the girls if they are prepared to stay with the in-laws. And we did propose for a few girls but they all said no. Anyway this year we went to see a girl, and she wanted her own place, so now My father agreed, but he said that she must stay with us for a while, and the girl also agreed. Then there were some issues that came up and my parents were feeling that the girls family is making all
the decisions and so we decided to delay the nikaah a bit so that we could discuss the issues. But when my father phoned he was very abrupt, and started saying things he should, he told them that the girls father is not supposed to speak to me and he should discuss issues with my father and that the girl must not come here and upset our lives and some other stuff. And so the girls side called it off. I was extremely upset, because he was making all the decisions for me and that I have no say in anything, My father is very hot tempered and if I disagree with what he says, he will starting shouting me. So I did write him a letter explaining all my grievances, and he agreed with some of them, but after that he starting complaining to my mother that I am blaming him for. In the letter I also told him that I want to stay on my own from the beginning, and I even threatened pack up and leave them if they continue to make decisions for me and force they views on me. But I don't know if he going to change his ways.

Anyway I need to know what I should do now, and what exactly are my parents rights on me. If I get married and stay on my own, they still want us to come and have supper with them. Also if I stay on my own how often should I come and visit them, and how much of time I should spend with them, and how much time should I spend with my wife. Also should me and my wife have supper with them everyday?

Dream

Q: I had done istikhaara not for myself but for a friend to see whether the person she wanted to get married to is the right one for her or not. She didn't want to do it herself as she had once tried but her emotions came in the way. On the first night I had a dream of something that was totally not related to the incident. On the second and third night I do not remember what had happned. On the fourth night I had a dream but did not remember what had happened when awakening and with no feeelings in the heart. On the fifth night I had a dream where I had seen the person I will probably marry in the future with red clothes on. I had done research where it said that when seeing red it is bad and green and white are good signs. Now does this mean that he is not right for me as I had the dream or because my intention was that I'm doing it for that girl that the person she wants to marry is not right for her. On the sixth and seventh night I did have a dream but cannot remember it.