References for some Aahaadith relating to death, passing away in Makkah and Madinah, etc

Q: 

  1. The Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) said something to this effect: Be careful! Those who were before you, used to transform the graves of their prophets and pious people in places of worship, beware of transforming tombs as places of worship. I forbid you this. (Saheeh Muslim) Please give me the page number.
  2. The Surah tabarakallazi said to Allah Ta’ala: “Remove me from your book if you did not forgive him”. Is there any Hadith something to this effect from the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam)?
  3. Please mention those Ahaadith which show the virtue of dying in either Makkah or Madinah.
  4. There is a Hadith in Saheeh Bukhaari which mentions the Du’a of Umar (Radiyallahu Anhu) to die as a martyr in the town of the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). Please give me the page number.

Men wearing clothing with embroidery

Q: Are men allowed to have embroidery on their clothes? Even little bit embroidery around the neck of the kurta/shirts. I understand heavy and lot of embroidery is a women thing and must be avoided but nowadays we find kurtas/and shirts with little bit work around neck, should it be worn by men or should the garments of the men be plain?

Secondly, it is in a Hadith not to copy non-Muslims. Nowadays Muslim men wear pants and shirts which I think is a western originated dress. You are treated as a weird person if you don't wear, so what should be the ruling about it?

Thirdly, I read somewhere that men should also not wear tight clothes, is it true? Then pants are fitted garments?

Fourthly I also read that men should also not dress up in a way that attracts the opposite sex. 

Please guide me how much of the above information is correct or not. And what should be the ruling about the other questions I asked?

The correct place for a woman

Q: My husband and I both work and pay bills together. I feel that because I work as well he should be helping me with housework. I do the cooking and taking care of the kitchen and laundry and most of the ironing. It's just the cleaning the I need help with most times. And sometimes I want him to do his own ironing. What is the ruling in that? He seems to think it is a wife's duty to do all that work and I'm not fulfilling it. Is he right?

Fulfilling one's promise

Q: If I gave my word to a new employer to move to his company and at the last minute and after he stopped looking for someone to fill my new position I changed my mind and decided to stay at my current company. If I stay my new employers work will be affected and if I leave my old work will to be affected as they have not found a replacement for me yet. If I change my mind at the last minute to move to a new company, is it haram because I gave my word to move? Please help me I need to answer both employers tomorrow.