Husband telling the wife "meri taraf say azad ho"

Q: I want to know about a problem which has effected me and my life a lot. My husband converted from shiaism although Masha Allah he has improved a lot in Imaan but still he is not acquainted with all sunni procedures. He is a high blood pressure patient and at times he says that please do not make me angry. I become mad in anger and do not know what to do, now the question is that one day on phone during fighting I was telling him that as you during our days of engagement used to say meri taraf say azad ho now do not use such things as it causes separation but he was insisting that Islam is not that tough that in anger if I say so without intention we would be separated, he said when I have to leave you I would use divorce word, we were still fighting that I asked him to let me talk to my mother in law who is still a shia and she said to me that no talaq never happens like this I was talking to her and in the background I heard my husband saying meri taraf say azad hai he was in anger and I think that as to repeat in anger he said this meri taraf say azad hai azad hai I asked my mother inlaw, you heard what he said? She said no I heard nothing he is in anger he talking to himself. I told her the words she said no I heard nothing like that I asked my husband he said I did not say any word to get you separated he said he was in much anger but he swore to Quran and Allah that he had not said azad words and he said he never had any intention of divorce if he had used divorce words. Then I cried and hang up. He called and said do you have Quran with translation and read Ayat 227-230 and said tum bakwas karte ho in Quran its word talaq for separation then he said you just fight for nothing i love you and i do not want to leave you then he gave Quran to aunty who read ahead and told him that in Quran it is allowed to marry 4 yateem girls he told me then i said even halala is also a solution in Quran he said in extreme anger that phir mein tumhein farigh karta hoin phir tum karlo halala. I asked what is yours intention he said shutup you are my wife and i am in anger i do not want to lose you I told him his words he said no i said to phir dafa hojao aur karo halalay and that too so that you shut shut up he swore upon Holy book that he never want to leave me or divorce me he said he was in much anger but he knew that talaq word would separate us thats why he didn't use it. Please tell me my husband says he never said words of separation and even my saas says she had not heard it now what is my condition what about talaq?

Is Faskh of Nikaah based on Ijma'

Q: Am I correct in understanding that Fasakh as understood by the Ahlus Sunnah wal Jamah is based on the ijma practice of the Sahaba (Radiyallahu Anhu)? Mufti I am very staunch that we follow orthodox Fiqh and I am not seeking to cause problems, instead I am trying to defend particularly the Shafi mazhab against people who argue that they can make ijtihad and grant a fasakh as equal to a Talaq (i.e. without any conditions at all).

And as much as all sunni Ulama reject this assertion of theirs I would like to understand what the Sunni view is based on, please.  

Durood recited by some Sufi's

Q: I came across a Durood that is used by some sufi's during their healing sessions, they claim that this durood is based on the names of our Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) that are hidden in the Quran, the two names are 'TAHA' and 'YASEEN'. The complete Durood is “Bismillaahi yasin habeebullah wa taha rasoolullaah Salalahu Allyahi Waslam”.

  1. Is it permissible to recite this darood.
  2. Is it permissible to recite other names of our Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) with the intention of seeking Allah's help, mercy and cure. I don't think the recitation of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) name will lead to shirk, because many of those names appear in Quran along with words like 'YA'.

What does it mean to fear Allah?

Q: What does it mean to fear Allah?

  • 3:130-131 (O you who have believed, do not consume usury, doubled and multiplied, but fear Allah that you may be successful. And fear the Fire, which has been prepared for the disbelievers.)

Considering the above ayaat, why did Allah tell us to fear Hell. Aren't we supposed to fear Allah only? Is fearing Hell (or the fear of not going to Paradise) somewhat similar to fearing Allah? However, on the flip side, why would somebody fear Allah if he doesn't fear Allah's punishment! I am getting very confused and uneasy over this apparent contradiction.

  • Also, as far as I know, Allah could also punish a person in this world, for example by causing somebody else to beat that person up. Does that mean we should also fear other people since Allah could inflict punishment on us through them?

I would really appreciate if you could give me detailed explanations regarding the above questions.

Female noun used to refer to Hazrat Adam (Alayhis Salaam) in the Qur'an

Q: Why did Allah Ta'ala use a Female Noun (Isim mu'annas) to refer to Adam (Alayhis Salaam) in the following verse (7:189);  "Huwa allathee khalaqakum min nafsin wahidatin wajaAAala minha zawjaha (It is He Who has created you from a single person, and (then) He has created from him his wife). why Allah used the word 'nafsin wahidah' , "minha" and "zaujaha" to refer to Adam.