Un-Islamic marriages

Q: Many Muslims do not do marriages according to Islamic rulings these days. In my family, my elder brother got married but I did not attend his marriage. I think that where Muslims do not apply sunnah of Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, I should not attend such celebrations. They marry like non-muslims, so I think we should not attend such marriages. I want to know if my thinking is correct?
I am asking this because I listened in lectures of Ulama that a believer should stop evil with hand. If one have not so much power to stop with hand, one should try to stop evil by mouth i.e. saying about the wrong. If one have not even this ability than one should feel it evil. Because of this this, I don't attend marriages where Islamic rules are avoided.

My Muslim relative is doing shirk

Q: I have a relative, who born as a muslim. But he is doing shirk. Every friday & in the month of ramdhan he goes to mosque. But at the same time he also vist temples & worships the idols. He is a good person with good character. I don't want him to do shirk. I want to give him dawah about Islam. So, please help me in this regard? Please let me know if there is any supplication, wazaif, dua to be read, with the barkat of which ALLAH will change him & make him a true MUSLIM. I hate his SHIRK activities. Please help me Mufti Saheb. Tell us what could we do in order to make him a good muslim?

Need to get married but cannot due to my mothers overbearing ways

Q: I am a devoted Muslim and do my best to follow the rgiht path with my parents. However despite loving my mother and dedicating years of my life trying to keep her company and happy I find now that I am struggling to cope with her overbearing ways. She hates that I want to get a job or have a friend to the extent that she asks me not to go out to see anyone unless she is also involved. I am getting old and want to get married and have a life but with her demands on me that will never happen. I feel that the stress is taking a toll on my mental and physical health and am getting very low. I don't want to upset her though but now I feel she has made me sacrifice my own life for her and that is not right. What can I do?

Some questions relating to death, ghusal and burial

Q:

  1. Which shahadat should be given preference for the talqeen of the muhtadar, the first shahadat or the shahadatain.
  2. From which side the qabr must be close with the plank for man and woman. The head side or the leg side.
  3. In the niyyat of the janazah salaah, is it necessary for the muqtadis say within themselves “behind this imam”.
  4. We used to walk in between the qabr with the shoes, I came across the Hadith discouraging to walk with the shoes. What should we do?
  5. Can we eat the fruits and take home the flowers of the qabarastan. If not, what should be done especially with the fruits? Let it get rotten on the trees?
  6. What the Shariah says about of planting on the qabr, especially after the burial. The flowers most of the time are taken from another qabr. Sometimes we find big big plants on the qabr. Should we keep the qabr completely neat at all times?