Q: I am a recently widowed woman, who has met a man who is divorced. He has not been living with his wife for the last 3 years. He does not see either his daughters nor his wife accept on Eid. He has told me that he is divorced legally. I have checked with the home affairs and it is true. He told me that he had given her 1 talaaq and waited for her to come back home but she had not returned since that day 3 years ago. Islamically is his nikaah still binding with her? Can she still come back to him and their nikaah will still be valid? Why does he not want to make a commitment with me, has something to do with his nikaah!

Q: A revert is asked by his wife for a divorce, which he refuses. She applies for a court interdict after they have a fight and his Muslim lawyer advises him to agree to the divorce in exchange for the wife not asking for the interdict. He reluctantly agrees but still doesn't give talaaq. A few weeks later his lawyer says that the wife is waiting for the talaaq and he must give it. He writes "I hereby give you a divorce" and the lawyer adds "in this regard I give you 3 talaaq." He signs it and the lawyer emails it to the wife. What is the validity of this divorce and is it 3 or 1? The husband says he has never wanted the divorce and it was never his intention to give 3 as he did not understand what this meant.  

Q: If someone sends a talaaq with somebody. He sends a photocopy saying I give talaaq 1,2,3. No Signature on the paper. Now he says he didn't write it. Must she begin her iddat, or is it not valid?

Q: A girl claims that I am responsible for her failed marriage and accuses me of concealing from her the truth about her in law's and husband's evil character and habits. Prior to her marriage, when asked my opinion about the family, I told her family that from my interactions with the boy and his family and from what I had heard about them, I was never given a reason to believe that they were anything but good people. They then proceeded to do their own private investigations. The girl says that I should repent and will be questioned about my actions on the Day of Reckoning. Can you please also comment on whether a boy is destined to have an unhappy marriage if his parents were separated (but have since reunited) and if his grandfather made nikah with a second wife?

Q: I got married to my husband 3 1/2 years back. On the day of my Walima I told my husband to take me to his village where he has his house and all his family members are staying. My husband had divorced his first wife hence he said he cannot take me as nobody will be happy and I cannot face my family members because recently I had divorced. Since then I refused to stay with my in laws because it hurt my feelings and I also had to face many questions from my own family as to why my husband is not taking me to his village. I settled with him in Dubai and in order to financially help my husband I started working because he could not afford to keep me with him in Dubai. After 1 1/2 year of our marriage I delivered a bay girl. Since she was too small I had to bring my mother with me. I never forced my husband to pay the expenses either for my daughter or my mother. Since myself and my mother both took care of my daughter my husband started to avoid his responsibilities. He is very fond of playing cricket and whole nights on weekends he plays cricket. His friends and relatives in Dubai are bachelors and I do not allow them to enter our house. He gets frustrated and starts fighting with me. Am I wrong on this? Things became wors during the past one year and I left my home with my mother and daughter to my home country India. Even after that my husband use to fight with me and stopped talking to me for 15 days. After waiting for 15 days I came back to Dubai and found that my house is all messed up as his friends and relatives were staying with him. He Slapped me and asked me why did I came. When I checked his laptop there were all nude photographs and dirty video clippings. We had big arguments and he threatened me with divorce and his family is supporting him in all this. In order to manage things I asked him to forgive me for all the arguments. He always says that he cannot afford to keep me with him and he wants me to go to his village and stay with his family and he shall stay in Dubai. In all this situation as per Shariah can I tell my husband that I cannot stay with his family. I really care for him and want him to leave all the bad companions and fulfill his responsibility. I always want to stay with him but the price that I will have pay to stay with him is work and share his responsibility and put my baby into babysitting because he doesn’t want my mother to stay with us. As per Shariah do I have the right not to stay with my in laws in such situation?

Q: I am in a dilemma. My parents used to have problems. In 2009 my mums dad passed away so my mum went for the burial and thereafter decided to stay at her own mums house. Since then she hasn't met my dad. She wanted a divorce which my dad isn't ready to give, so she applied for khula. Our community is helping in this but they are very slow. She works at her dad's shop, so another man has liked her. Because our community is very slow, this man went to the qadhi and made him sign the divorce papers and the qadhi even performed their nikah but my dad doesn't know about this and there was no wali at the time of nikah. Both my mum and that man sit and talk. Please explain if this is halaal or not? 

Q: I would like to confirm the name "Umair or Umayr". This would be after the first Ambassador of Islam Mus'ab ibn Umair (Radiyallahu Anhu), who was sent to Medina by Nabi Mohammed (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). Can you please confirm if this meaning is correct and what is the correct transliteration spelling, Umair or Umayr?

Q: Is there any authentic hadith from the books of hadith about the forty steps for each person to carry the janazah?

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1. Please let me know if installing a gravestone with the name of the deceased inscribed on it for the purpose of identification is Jaiz? I am told that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) had put a gravestone on the graves of his son Ibrahim (Alayhis Salaam) and also a Sahabi Uthmaan bin Mazoon. Even today we notice gravestones in many of the graves at jannatul Baqi. 
2. Is it compulsory to reuse a grave inspite of sufficient vacant space being available in the graveyard? If required after how long can a grave be reused?

Q: I have saved up enough money to make Hajj become fardh on me however, I still have a substanial balance left on the car which I drive. What comes first, do I pay the car off or do I make intention and effort to go for hajj?