Q: A Molisab recently said in a bayan:

"The Islamic method of giving money to one's spouse (wife) is as follows; you should give her household shopping money so that she can buy food and other such things for the family (the husband and children). As regards to this 'shopping money' you are allowed to ask her to show you how she spent the money and she is not allowed to give sadaqa, etc from that money without your permission.

In addition to that you have to give her regular 'spending/pocket money' for her services to you as she can't go out to earn herself (as she is busy serving you and the children). As regards to this 'pocket money' after you give it to her it becomes her 'mi-lk' (possession) and therefore you can't ask her how she spent the money or who she spent it on, etc. If she wishes she can give it all to her parents and you have to right to ask or demand that she stops giving to her parents, etc.

The wife should also save up the 'pocket money' and give her zakat , go for hajj and perform other obligations with this money instead of paying zakat, etc from the husbands money "

Mufti saheb my question is - Is this statement of the Molisab correct?

Q: I live in a city called Birmingham in the UK.  You advised me to keep the company of the pious.  There is one scholar who is a graduate of Darul Uloom Bury, here in the UK.  He is the khalifa of a Naqshbandi Sheikh.  I have attended his Majlis for over a year.  I am ashamed to say that, due to my own weakness, I have obtained little benefit.  I have tried to concentrate and keep in touch with him. I have become demoralised because he is not easily accessible.  The reasons for this I feel are:

1. I don’t feel able to speak openly to him.
2. His serious demeanour makes him unapproachable at times.
3. On a couple of occasions he has not responded to questions, which he has said he would go away and think about.
4. Immediately after Salah, he usually goes home or if he does stay behind there are always close mureeds of his that that take all his time.

What should be done in such a situation?  I feel all alone and frustrated. 

Q: My husband sent talaaqnama. I want to know that did the talaaq take place or not? In talaaqnama he wrote talaakh insteadd of writing talaaq.

Q: I have been adopted by my Paternal Uncle (fathers brother) due to him not having any children. My Uncles wife did breastfeed me, making her my Foster Mum. My Question is regarding parda with the following people, and making Salaam and shaking hands with them. Are the following Males, Mahram to me:

1. My Foster Nana (foster mums father)?
2. My Foster Nana's Brothers?

And is Parda required between my Husband and the following females:

1. My Foster Mum?
2. My Foster Nani (foster mums mother)?

*** Both of my Biological Parents are still alive ***

From what I understand, that all relations that are Haraam through Blood are all Haraam through Breastfeeding also. Please shed light on the above Laws, and if any other rules are to be known, please inform me.

Q: A young girl has married over a year ago into a united family of five members comprising of her husband, his father, mother, younger brother (unmarried) and younger sister (already married). The husband’s demand over his wife is that she become part of and fully blend with his family in order to make him happy. His demand is that he will and can only be happy with her if his family is happy with her. The wife, whilst making some attempts to do so, has been having difficulty with and also occasionally unwilling to agree fully to keeping to the terms of his demand while also having to take care of a six month old baby.

Can this demand of the husband upon his wife be an acceptable and justifiable cause for his marriage to weaken or break up as he has threatened to do so on occasions?

Q: Could you please forward me any article or kindly let me know any book name how one can spend first night marriage life according to Shari'ah as I was asked by one of my friends he told me that you have to make maswara with respected ulama, that's why only I am sending this message to you, kindly confirm urgently. 

Q: I am divorced for 2 months, 1 month pregnant. Is it permissible to make nikah or do you have to wait for idath to be over?

Q: I am writing this email because someone known to me is facing a strange situation and have insisted me to ask you this question. He is already married but have contracted nikah with someone else as well. However, when he committed the second lady about nikah, there wasn't any witness to that. Soon after that promise (or whatever you call it) the lady called her father and told about it. Father called the person and showed his agreement to her daughter's decision. Then they publicized this agreement to their family members. The first wife of the person called the lady and discussed various matters about her husband's marriage with the lady. Subsequently, the first wife announced that in their family. everyone accepted this decision. However, till date no formal document has been signed.

Now a million dollar question is about validity of this nikah. Please comment in the light of Quran and Sunnah.

Q: My father in law asked his daughter in front of myself and my two uncles whether she agreed to marry my brother. She allegedly replied 'yes.' My wife seen her sister nod her approval. My two uncles both heard the reply but I neither heard the question nor the reply because it was done in such a soft tone. Subsequently, in my presence and my brother in laws presence she was asked again to clarify. This time I heard the reply. My question is that tomorrow at the Musjid my uncle and I are witnesses to this marriage on the documentation that the girl signed. My uncle and I will also have to sign the same or another document.

1. Will the marriage be valid based on the fact that, when asked by the Imam, both witnesses on the documentation, my uncle and I did not both hear the girl say yes at the same time, i.e. I heard her say yes about half hour later, when the girl was asked again.
2. Is it permissible for me to sign the document saying I was a witness and say so when asked by the imam.

Q: I just want to ask a question about the money for a wife. I am pregnant my husband fulfills my all needs, but he does not give me pocket money as I need it for myself. e.g for my parents. My husband can afford it. Should he give me money or not?