Written Talaaq

Q: My husband and I have been experiencing marital problems for quite some time now with no resolve. As a result, I have written out 3 talaaqs and asked him to sign the paper on which I wrote the words : "I 'husbands full name' hereby give 'wifes full name' a talaaq." Only under the first one did he write his name but no signature acknowledging that all 3 are valid. Is this talaaq valid? If so, how many have been given, and also, what should my next course of action as wife be?

استنجاء

س: الاستنجاء واجب بعد خروج النجس من السبيلين. هل يجب الاستنجاء قبل كل الوضوء؟ هذا مقصودي. إذا أنا إستنجيت مرة بعد خروج النجس من السبيلين، و بعد ساعتين مثلا، أريد أن أتوضأ  - هل يجب علي الاستنجاء قبل الوضوء (إذا لم يخرج النجس من المخرجين)؛ و لكن وقع في رأسي الشك بخروج النجس، و لكن لا يوجد اليقين أو العلم اليقيني بأنه خرج النجس من الفرج مثلا. في الحالة الموصوفة يجب الاستنجاء أم لا؟ هل يجب الاستنجاء قبل كل الوضوء؟ أو ذلك مستحب فقط لا واجب؟

السؤال الثاني: هل يجب الاستنجاء بعد خروج الريح من الدبر؟

Istinja

Q: When we clean ourself after passing stool, is it ok to insert the middle finger of the left hand into our anus as part of the cleaning, to make sure that no dirt is left, and if we do this during fasting will the fast break?

Contraceptives

Q: We plan on going for Haj this year Insha Allah. Is it permissible for my wife to use contraceptives to avoid falling pregnant. We have been accredited.

Not fulfilling marital rights

Q: My husband thinks that his a Waliuallah. He reads 24/7. He is a 6 times namaaz reader including tajud namaaz. He always talk Islamic. He doesn't go anywhere. His friends can't joke about anything. He doesn't spent time with our kids. He'll take us somewhere if it benefits him only. Pleas help! Is this the way to go about being a Waliuallah?