Hurmat-e-musaaharah

Q: I read about the Islamic ruling that a man should not touch his mother-in-law, and if he does that, his relationship with his wife will forever become haraam. I am very conscious about this.

Today I visited my in-laws with my wife and I was very conscious about it more than before. My mother-in-law wanted to give me a gift for my birthday and I did not accept the gift. She forcefully gave my the gift by lifting my hand and putting it in my hand. I had no sexual desire towards my mother-in-law before she handed it over to me and even when she held my hand to give me the gift, I had no sexual intentions. But, I had a rush of blood in my body when she was continuously insisting and forcing me to accept the gift. When she held my hand to give me the gift, there was a rush of blood, but believe me there was no sexual desire or intentions from my end. I am very much upset now that whether my wife has become haram on me?

Wife remaining obedient to her husband

Q:

1. Should the wife give preference to listening to her shaikh's bayaan or to do what the husband requests at that time.

2. Should the wife give preference to listening to the bayaan of an aalim that is a khalifah of her shaikh or to do what the husband requests at that time.

3. Should a wife give preference to read her wazifas for 1 hour or more when she wakes up around 8am or should she be attending to her husband's needs.

4. Is it permissible for a wife to play nazams and qiraat loudly in the house when she knows it causes a disturbance to the husband?

5. Is is permissible to play qiraat loudly in the house when other members of the family are sleeping?

6. Is it appropriate for the mother of children to let them sleep till 10am or 11am on Sundays and holidays? Should she not be inculcating the habit in them of waking up early and doing some work?