Is being divorced a punishment from Allah

Q: l have a question about my married life.

I was married for 22 years and I have a daughter of 20 years. 8 months ago I got divorced by my husband. For the last 10 years I have been facing all kinds of family problems. He tortured me mentally and didn't even maintain any physical relations with me for the last 6-7 years. We were living in the same house but separately. He didn't talk to me or see me for months

3 years ago we were in separated for 1.5 years but for the sake of my daughter I went back to his house.After 2-3 months the situation became the same. I left my job to make him happy. He performed hajj 7 years ago but never performs a single salah. He is extremely bad tempered, uses slang words and still maintains several extra marital affairs. His tendency was to find my faults at any coast and always dominated and insulted me. He couldn't show his true colour till my mother-in law was alive because she loved me a lot.

I tolerated everything for my daughter with great hope that Allah (SWT) will fix my problem and I always wanted and want the best Judgement from Him. After my divorce I am mentally free now. I firmly believe that Allah has done the best for my daughter and me. My ex-husband has sent my daughter abroad to study as well as to make his way free. None of his family members supported his disdained activity but support me a lot.

My question is that, is my current situation a punishment for me and a reward to him? I tolerated every situation with sabr. If it is a punishment for me then what and how will be my reward be? If it is a reward for my ex husband, what will he get in return? 

Punjabi words that construe talaaq

Q: I speak Pothwari Punjabi. I used to say alot of phrases like...

Mein iski chordisa

Jabi woh idr ay toh mein uski chordisa

Or jab idr ay gi toh talaaq ho jasi

Jila vee idr ay teh usni talaaq ho jasi

Uski mein talaaq desa

Mein us k saath na rehnigya

Is this same as a promise or is this condtional? Its the same as urdu meaning I think.

Paying off one's brother's debts with zakaat money

Q: If there are 2 siblings, one is fairly well off and the other is struggling financially. The “wealthier” one would like to discharge his zakaah.

The question is, can it be given to the struggling sibling, to settle debts. It would pay the credit card debts off and the card would then be cancelled.

Also, debts from medical bills that arose from the birth of their last child, which is with debt collectors. They pay small amounts, but with the interest so it does not do much and the amounts keep increasing. It would only be used for debt payments and no other purpose. Please advise.

Seeing discharge upon awakening

Q: If a woman who always suffers from vaginal discharge which is continuous throughout the day and night. Sometimes the discharge has a foul odor and it is thick white like leucorrhoea and sometimes the white discharge has mild odour or no odour.

After waking up, if she finds the white discharge with a foul odour and she is certain that she did not have a wet dream, does ghusl become compulsory?

Note: She is very certain that she didn't have any wet dream.