Washing impurities before putting it in a washing machine

Q: Could you please let me know if it's permissible to only remove a period stain from a bedsheet with the help of wet tissues before completely washing it in the washing machine or getting it washed from a laundry shop? Will it make the washing machine and other clothes in it najis? It's extremely difficult to wash a king size bedsheet by hand.

Using speech techniques to make one's spouse love one

Q: I would like to know if I can speak to my wife by implanting thoughts in her mind to love me without her realizing this consciously to improve my marriage. These techniques are taught in NLP Neuro-linguistic programming which teaches people how to use language to influence others by saying a sentence in a way where you are telling the mind what to do. For example, instead of saying you should love me, I said to her you can feel yourself loving me more and more now. Is this permissible for me to do?

Woolworths credit card

Q: Woolworths offer a credit card for R69 per month. The benefits are that a person gets free delivery on all orders online.

Secondly, every purchase one makes with the card accumulates 3% cash back. Would it be permissible to use this card, not earn interest nor pay interest, but use the free delivery extensively as well as the quarterly cash back.

Who is responsible for shipment or courier when ordering an item?

Q: I ordered an item from overseas. When ordering, they offer you various shipment options, such as couriers, post office, etc., with various pricings.

1. Does this make me responsible if the post office loses the item, because I chose who I want to deliver the item to me, making them like my wakeel to accept the item and transport it to me. However, on the other hand, the seller still remains in control of the shipment since they sent it. For a lost parcel the seller will have to contact the post office and submit the claim, etc. not me.

2. The parcel disappeared, it seemed to be lost. The seller sent a new item by courier, which reached me within a week. The seller (non Muslim) will make a insurance claim for the 1st item from the post office. Can I use this 2nd item they sent me?

3. A few months later the first item arrived in the post. However customs want a payment of R1000 to release it. I need this shipment to be sent back to the seller because I have already received the 2nd parcel they sent, and this is extra. Who will have to pay for the return shipping and customs fees?

Fasting on only the 10th of Muharram due to some valid excuse

Q: I have read that it is makrooh tanzihi for one to fast on only the 10th of Muharram (without also fasting on the 9th or 11th). My questions are:

1. What is the ruling if one could only fast on the 10th due to some valid reason?

2. Should he rather not fast on the 10th?

3. What constitutes a valid reason?

4. What's the meaning and ruling of makrooh tanzihi?