How to distribute fidyah money?

Q: When giving fidyah for a deceased person's prayers and fasts, is it necessary to use the fidyah money to feed the poor (those eligible for zakaat) or can the money be spent on the poor in other ways? For example:

a. In places where food is served to the poor, the fidyah money is spent on seating arrangements, such as providing the poor with dariyyan (دریاں).

b. Providing the needy with the money for a poor girl's marriage.

c. Just giving the money to the poor to spend it as they like.

Trying to join family ties

Q: I have a severe problem. Me and my brother have not been talking to each other for many years. But since I got to know that it is such a great sin, I want to turn back. I have asked forgiveness from him several times. I even tried starting the conversation but he never talks to me and he will never talk. I am stuck. What should I do? He is really determined not to talk to me. How can I seek Allah 's forgiveness?

Whitish discharge after haidh

Q: I am unsure of how to count my period days as, usually, even when I am not bleeding or on my period I have a small amount (the size of a two rand coin approx) slightly yellow/cream colored discharge or perhaps this may even be from sweat as I don't feel it coming out. So, when I count my period days, towards the end of my period about 8 days in, I see this yellow/cream color on my sanitary towel. Would this be considered as the end of my Haidh as it is the normal color that is always on my sanitary liner? Do I make a ghusl when I see this color or do I wait a full ten days. I am unsure as there is never actually no color on my liner, and, all of the masalas that I have read say that you have to wait for your sanitary liner to be completely white,but, I never experience that my sanitary liner is completely white.