Thinking about a married man

Q: I have this problem that has been bothering me for over 4 months now. I don't know what to do.

People tell me to pray and you will forget about it. But it is very difficult and I feel like no one understands me.

I used to work last year September till November so I worked only for 2 months. Within that 2 months my manager (who is 30 and I'm 19) has always supported me, and was there for me. We both grew a trusting relationship where we told eachother everything. Even when it came to talking about our illnesses and family problems with eachother. Bear in mind that he is a divorcee and married again. He has been there to support me and when no one understood me, his the only one that did.

Since I left my job, I feel like I'm going mental because I can't stop thinking about him. He told me about his illness so I gave him a Quran speaker, so hearing recitation keeps him calm. I cannot go through a single prayer without making dua for him. I can't sleep at night but worry if his okay, 24/7 (I mean 24/7) I think about him and question myself "is he ok" and pray to Allah to keep him safe and happy.

I know that I have no affection towards him. And I know myself that I am not allowing Shaytaan to play with my head. It's a Muslim sister worrying about her brother. I finished a Quran khatam for him, and I call up my store using a private number so when I hear his voice I know his safe and ok.

It's been 4 months and I still can't forget about him. I really don't know what to do it's very difficult and I really need help!

Using one's past experience to find a new job

Q: I got my job through the reference of my father's friend. I always doubted the procedure for acquiring a job but under my father's pressure worked for 3 year then I left. I thought that Allah will not be happy with me although I wanted my Allah to provide for me a job by better means. Now I want to know that whether I can use my past experience to find a new job or not?

Female going to a salon for waxing

Q: I am getting married in two weeks inshallah. I ask for your duas of barakah and happiness inshallah.

I suffer from polycystic ovarian syndrome. My main issue is high testosterone in my body. Medication helps but does little to control excessive hair growth. Most woman have hair on their legs, however with pcos it is excessive thick hair and is like that all over the body. This is no an exaggeration. I am hairier than my father. I even have thick long hair on my lower back and the private area just below that. I do manage my hair through waxing but never bothered hard to reach areas since I was not married and was not lawful to remove.

My question is, can I go to a salon where there is no men and have waxing done professionally as it is excessive growth and I cannot manage it on my own. Even the areas I can access I have painful in growns and acne. Leaving the hair and saying that my husband wont mind, I think is incorrect because this is no way near normal. Even shaving is painful for me and leaves lots of acne and again, it is hard for me to access.