Taking a loan from a bank

Q: There is a bank here which is offering me personal loan. I was not interested in taking that because it is haram as they will get more money in return of the money they gave me. However the bank showed me a stamp of their personal loan option from the sharia council. So can I rely on that stamp fully and avail this option. I do not know about the minor details like will they charge more if my instalment is delayed or etc but it has been approved by the sharia council so is it allowed in islam?

Impotent husband

Q: I've been married since 5 months. My parents made me get married against my will even when istikhara was not right but I accepted it and started this life honestly and happily with my husband.

After marriage, on the very first day I got to know that my husband is completely impotent. During these 5 months we never had intercourse. Apart from that, he doesn't even care for me either I'm sick or anything happens to me. He works in a mill, comes home in the evening, has his dinner and sleeps. That's his daily routine.

He told me that he has consulted a doctor and taking medicines for his impotency. I believed him and remained calm but there's no difference. I haven't even seen him taking any medicines.

My parents too are not supporting me. This relation is now nothing more than a useless weight on my shoulders. I'm so depressed and sick since a month.

I've heard somewhere that if spouses never have intercourse when they're living together then they're automatically divorced. Is it true?

And, can I ask for khulaa (divorce) myself now? Feelings of hatred are buillding up in me against him. I feel like I'll kill him or myself someday. May Allah Paak forgive me for such thoughts but this hatred is not is my control. What shall I do?

Concern for earning halaal

Q: I would like to know about halal and haram incomes. Alhumdulillah I have a full time job. I have undertaken a second job working in hospitals on a casual basis for the basis of saving for hajj, investing in a business and paying off my mortgage (riba based unfortunately). I have chosen to work on Male wards to avoid mixing. But there are some points I would like to clarify. I will be working on mental health wards as a nursing assistant which from time to time require restraint of patients.

1. If I am called to another ward in an emergency situation can I restrain the patient if the patient in this ward is a female?(Alhumdulillah this has not happened to date)

2. The training required to restrain patients is carried out in a mixed environment where physical contact with females for the purpose of practising restraining techniques is highly possible. Would I be able to do this training?

3. I make an effort to avoid serving haraam foods served in the hospital by explicitly stating religious reasons (Alhumdulillah, to this day I haven’t had to serve haraam food). But if no one else is around to carry out the duty I may have to serve the haraam food. Can I do this?

4. So far none of the instances have occurred in this job and the chances of the above points happening are very low (except for training which takes place once every year).

5. The income earned from this job, would it be halaal? To use for hajj or daily living or investing etc.. if any of the above points occurred.

6. Finally is this job suitable (halaal) based on the above information, if not what should I do with money earned so far.

Boy getting married without his parents approval

Q: I am a new Muslim. I am currently married to a Christian and seeking a divorce. After divorce and iddah time is final, I desire to marry a Muslim man. It is the same person that helped lead me to Islam and helped me with my Shahaadah.

The problem is that I am a Caucasian American and he is an Arab Egyptian. His parents do not accept me because I am from a different culture. I have been married before and I am not Muslim by birth. His parents want him to marry a virgin from his culture. Me and him tried not to, but we have fallen in love and want to marry. He is 25 and I am 26. In order to keep his parents desires for him, I am willing to accept a polygamous marriage. But they still don't approve. He is now asking me to marry him without his parents knowing, and tell them after the marriage. I want to marry him and he wants to marry me, but I do not want to start off a marriage with haraam ways. I want my marriage to be halal. Can you give me sound advice to this situation?

Marital problems

Q: My husband had built a house for us and now my husband is abroad so I'm at my mother's place. My sister in law also has her own house and she had an idea of demolishing her own house and re making the house again. She is well wealthy also. After she demolished her house, my husband told her that she can come and live in our own house. So now my sister in law, her husband, her 2 children, my mother in law, my father in law, and my other sister in law and her husband and her 4 children are living there.

My second sister in law also has her own house. But she also is now living in my house with her children and her husband. Now there are so many people living in my house and all of them are my in laws and their children.

Before they came to my home, my home was clean and good looking. Now they have made my home totally untidy and all their clothes are everywhere. All the things of my home are messed up and they have changed everything as they wish. Some items are missing in my home. Even the bathrooms have become stinky.

When I go home, I hate how dirty it is and they all ignore me. They forgot that it is my home. My husband says that his sister and his whole family have full right to change everything in my home. He says that his family have more over my home than me. My questions are:

1. Can they live in my home when me and my husband are not there?

2. Do they have permission to change everything in my home as they wish?

3. Many items are missing in my home after they came, can they do like that?

3. Can they enjoy their lives while destroying my home?

4. If my husband built a house from his own money, who are the real owners of that property?