Marital problems

Q: My husband is hardly intimate with me. Few months into the marriage I caught him looking at pictures of other women online and I questioned him about it and he advised he would stop, then 2 months later he was still doing it and I questioned him again and he advised he would stop. During this time we still were not being intimate, he just won’t touch me. When I question him he says “why I’m I interested in this subject?” and I respond advising “it’s my right as your wife”. He does not mind just getting wet with his clothes on and coming on top of me, I don’t like this at all. It’s not fair on me. I have confronted him about it but he does not seem to understand. I have caught him again just himself getting himself wet, but this time he says he does it when I’m not there and when he’s thinking about me. I don’t believe him. Today I have realised that he does it in a way where he thinks I don’t know what he's been up to and he is still carrying on his ways. I don’t know what to do now. I live with my in laws at home. I have confronted him a few times, We have been married for nearly 2 years. We have no children. It was NOT an arranged marriage. My husband does care for me and looks after me. But I feel run down, upset and he does not think there’s any actual problem with him not being intimate with me. I make dua on his behalf to stop. I just don’t know what to do, I can’t tell anyone as it’s a matter not to discuss. Please help me.

Keeping the name Zaari

Q: I am looking for a name for my daughter. I want the name to start from zaa. Can you suggest for me some name? I first gave her zaari but my dad said surah azzairiyaat means scattering wind so now I want to change it. Please help me.

Irregular bleeding

Q: It has been 24 days since my last monthly period. I normally have a 26 to 28 days gap though sometimes I come on after 24 or 25. My question is I saw a drop of blood on the 24th day in the night then nothing the next day till night and in the night 25th day I saw a drop again and today is the 27th and I have not seen anything. Is it permissible for me to have intercourse with my husband?

Tombstones

Q: According to a Sahih Hadith of Abu Dawood the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) had installed a head stone on the grave of a Sahabi for the purpose of identification in order that other family members could be buried near him. Accordingly the majority of the Ulama (including the salafi scholars are also in agreement) a grave stone can be installed as a marker. However the members of the managing committee of the graveyard of our town are forcibly stopping people from acting on this hadith giving their own personal reasons. Are they justified in forcibly preventing their Muslim brethren to act on a proven example of our beloved Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam)? Please give your opinion.