Husband typing in a draft message "you go" without the intention of divorce

Q: If Arif writes "You Go" on a sms on his phone with this in mind that he is thinking that he is saying this to his wife Rubab, but on the sms there is no mention of Rubab's name neither her number is displayed in the 'To' Field, its all in the mind. Does the intention count then or is it just nothing. Bearing in mind, Arif suffers from constant wasawas in every aspect of life, marriage, salah, wudhu, ghusl. 

Husband not allowing children to visit their non-Muslim grand-mother

Q: I am a revert alhumdulilah. I am in a dilemma regarding visiting my mother who is Hindu. My husband does not allow my kids to visit her because she has a temple in her yard. It's not like the kids play outside. My family has a lot of respect that I am a Muslim and they have never forced us into doing anything unlawful or haram. My mother is now heartbroken as she can't be with her grandchildren and I feel bad visiting her without the kids. Her tears are haunting me. I know that a mother holds Jannat under her feet and to make a mother cry is the biggest sin. I can't take this anymore I'm miserable and how do I earn Jannat one day in sha Allah if my mother is hurt. So please advise as I can't hear or see my mother cry anymore.