Marital problems

Q: A married woman with 3 chidren (7, 6, 2 years) has been cheating her husband and was in contact with unknown men for the last 6 years through internet facebook, whats app etc. She posted her pictures on facebook with makeup and even semi nude pictures in body fitness workout dress. Finally she committed zina after inviting one of the men to her home at the time her husband was at work. She repeated the zina at least once. She does not seem to be repentful. She used to lie, cheat, tell others that her husband is cruel. From clear “qaraa’in” she stole cash whenever she could. She used to spend hours and hours on internet and would go to her neighbours and spend time there chatting on internet and will then leave to cook food and will leave her home unattended. With all this, and her written confession of zina. Now her husband has cancelled her visa and has sent her back to her parents. Children were happy on her leaving because of her bad behaviour. She was so cruel she used to order the six year old son to iron the clothes though a maid would come for five days a week.

Now the questions:

1) is it jaiz that the husband and close relatives explain to children that the mother is not good has bad habits and not suitable for them to get together. If not done so, the children when become a little older will fight with the father with sympathy for the mother.

2) Is it jaiz to tell people when they ask about her that she committed zina and other bad things. Otherwise people have all the sympathy for the woman and blame husband

Marital problems

Q:

My husband and I have been having major difficulties in our marriage for a number of reasons for the last year. However last week we had a terrible fight. In this fight he told me that I must F... Off. I have been advised that this counts a one Talaq. Is this the case?

My 2nd questions is that my husband is impotent. I have asked him many times to seek medical assistance as this has been going on for many years. He however says that he is scared and doesn't want to go. To be honest this is a major source of unhappiness for me and a major contributing factor as to why we cannot overcome our difficulties. We no longer have a connection. I feel terrible resentment towards him for not even as least attempting to get help. When we have our fights and I say I am leaving he always says he is going to commit suicide and I get scared and decide not to leave. But this is now affecting my health and I feel oppressed and don't know which direction to go. What are my rights regarding this.

Time of walimah

Q: Please advise how exactly is a nikah consummated. Is it necessary for the couple to perform intercourse or even if they slept together that shall be sufficient to perform walimah.

Breaking oaths in the state of kufr

Q: This is a three-part question related to vows/oaths. There is an individual who committed kufr (he started believing in human evolution, i.e. human beings evolved from other hominid species), but later returned to Islam.

1. The oaths that he took, and later broke, prior to committing kufr. Do these fall off (i.e. he does not have to pay kaffarah for them) because he committed kufr, and kufr wipes away all of one's past deeds (good and bad)?

2. The oaths that he took (in the state of kufr) and later broke (also in the state of kufr). Do these also fall off (i.e. he does not have to pay kaffarah for them) because he broke those oaths in a state of kufr?

3. The oaths that he took in the state of kufr, but later broke AFTER returning to Islam. Do these also fall off (i.e. he does not have to pay kaffarah for them) because he took those oaths in a state of kufr?

Fear of riya (showing off)

Q:

1. I don't like people around me hearing me recite during prayer as my recitation is not good (I'm in the process of learning correct pronunciation) so whenever people are around me while I pray I adjust how silently I pray accordingly. Is this considered as riya?

2. If I try to recite a bit smoother when I know someone else in the room, not because I want to please or to show off, but because I feel embarrassed about my recitation, is this riya?

3. Also, if someone comes into the room while you are praying and you feel glad that they see you praying, but you don't necessarily adjust your prayer, is this riya? Do you prayers become invalidated because of it?

Lastly, if you didn't know certain acts were considered showing off during worship/prayer, but then learn it later, do you have to make them up?

Selling a musjid

Q: There is a masjid in that is now being sold to purchase a new property. Some main points:

- It’s mainly indo-pak community so 90 to 95% of the congregation is Hanafi

- The committee is Hanafi as well

- The committee is now saying they never made intention for it to be a masjid

- Some Ulama are saying intention was made

- The new masjid property is 5 stories and accommodates the biggest Muslim community in Toronto

- The current masjid cannot accommodate the amount of kids in the area for Maktab, Jummah etc.

- There is no possibility of extending the current “Masjid” because of the type of building and area it is situated in.

Are they allowed to sell the masjid if the intention was made for masjid? Someone said that they are allowed to take rulings from other Madhabs in this scenario to find a way to fix the issue at hand, is this correct? What should be done in this scenario?