Various masaail of Nikaah

Q: Is getting married to someone so that she can make khidmat of his parents correct or should the decision be made more on shahwat for the person?

Q: Is it ok if I don’t want to get involved in polygamy because of love for my wife? Someone said that it is sinful and exaggerating, is it true? Someone said this this statement and it disturbs me. I don’t think it’s sinful because it’s not obligatory and it’s totally a man's choice. Please guide me.

Q: The sons in a particular family insist that for the sake of keeping family unity, their wives should invite the entire family (their mother, siblings and siblings spouses and kids) for a meal. And that their mother and sister are entitled to stay a few days every once in a while at the son’s house. If the daughter in laws complain about the amount of work it takes to host a meal for so many people, the sons become very angry and fight with their wives until they agree to host.

There has already been so many divorces in this family. Who is right and who is wrong? The sons, their mother and sister for constantly imposing on the daughter in laws or the daughter in laws for not wanting to entertain guests?

Q: If a widow remarries, which husband will she be with in Jannah?

Q: Is marriage considered as an ibaadah?

Q: If a husband defends his wife infront of his parents (as they are on the wrong side) and they get angry then how should a husband maintain his role of kuwam towards his wife as the parents wants to make their decisions. Also, they want the wife to serve them in all household chores on her own. In this situation what can a husband do?

Q: Because of my job I have been transfered to another city. Since I am married, my wife is back home.

My question is how long can one stay away from his wife without craving any sexual intimacy with his wife? Like for how many days/months. What does Islam says about it? As I live far away from her so it will take time to go back home. 

Q: My question is in regards to my obligations to my parents. I am 26 years old and I have always respected my parents, loved them and still do. I am ready for marriage but my mother keeps putting obstacles on my way and she doesn’t want me to get married. She already said yes to a proposal with lots of hardships. She always says you’re going to have bad luck, you’re going to cry once you get married, you need to take care of your parents (although I have other sisters and brothers). She also doesn’t understand that one day her daughter will get married or at least she will have the right to get married but she always refuses and says everyone has taken care of their parents instead of marriage, why can’t you, please guide me what to do?

Q: What advice can you give to me being a person seeking a spouse the halaal way. A lot of pressure is put on me especially because I am currently 27 years old.

Q: I am currently taking care of my parents who live in the unit next to me in a complex. My father wants me to buy a house so that I can accommodate the two of them (parents want to buy the house for me) but they do not want my husband to stay with us (they can't get along) and don't want my married children or grandchildren to visit on a regular basis. I cannot live without my husband and children. My parents want me exclusively to take care of them.

I'm the daughter and I have 3 brothers who don't want to take care of them because of previous issues with their wives. I do not mind living the way I'm living in a rented place because I have my own space and they have their own space.

Am I suppose to be listening to my parents or does my own family (husband) take priority. What is the Islamic view?