Advice

New Muslim feeling like a failure

Q: I am a new revert and my family doesn't know. They would completely disown me or hurt me if they knew. I sometimes struggle with doing prayer because they are there and lately I am also taking care of my sick father and cannot always do wudu or find the qibla at the hospital for prayer. What do I do? I feel like I'm failing.

Going through challenges after changing one's life

Q: Earlier in my past life when I didn't have much understanding of deen, I felt like I'm free from challenges and tests. After following deen Alhamdulilla I feel like life gives me tests at every step. One finishes and the other is on my door step. What is this Ustadh?

I'm confused. Is this a sign that My Rabb is not happy with me that's why I'm encountering one test after the other?

Getting to know the girl before marriage

Q: There is this ayah in the Quran "and that each person will only have what they endeavoured towards".

I understand that it is about afterlife and has nothing to do with wordly affairs. One of my friends used this in the context that you have to make effort to find a spouse and for that they were willing to get into talking stage with someone in the absence of a wali. Do I have to make an effort in finding a spouse and is talking to someone for that matter allowed?

Pre marital relationship

Q: I have been speaking to a girl online and we have tried to stop speaking many times and I totally regret the sin and wanted to conceal it so I didn’t tell anyone but it gets difficult because we find ourselves falling back into the sin and we want to get married. The only thing stopping is my parents so I told my parents about the situation even though I never wanted anyone to know because I wanted to conceal my sin, thinking they would assist me into getting married. However my parents have still not given me an answer and they think I’m too immature to get married and that I don't read all my Salaahs which I try my very best to perform all the time and the girl has accepted me the way I am. Can Mufti Saab please advise me.